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It's a long story, so bear with me.
There are 5 people on a yacht around some islands. There is a sailor who is the captain of the boat. There is an old man. Then there is a couple who are engaged. So a guy and a girl. Then there is the best friend of the guy who is engaged.
One night there is a storm and the yacht hits something and starts to sink. There are two life-rafts and all the people get into the life-rafts. The guy and his friend managed to get into the one raft. The girl, the sailor and the old man are in the other raft. As the storm rages on the two rafts cannot stay together and the two groups are split from each other. As the night continues they are at the mercy of the storm and each of them get shipwrecked on different islands. These islands are within site of each other so both groups can see that the other boat is on that island, but the islands are too far apart to swim from the one to the other.
Also during the storm, the raft of the sailor and company broke, so they cannot use it to get to the other island to get to the others. Now the girl obviously wants to get to her fiance and asks the sailor if he can repair the raft so that can go to the other island. The sailor responds that he will fix the boat, but one condition. She must sleep with him!
Now the girl is very confused, she doesn't want to sleep with him, but she wants the boat to be fixed to go and see her fiance. So she goes and asks advice from the old man. He says to her that she must do what she feels is right in her heart.
She then thinks very hard about the situation and after a while she decides that she must go and to the other island at all costs, so she agrees to sleep with the sailor. He stays true to his word and after they have done the deed, he repairs the raft and she goes across to the other island. When she gets there she tells her boyfriend exactly what she did in order to get to him. He is furious and breaks up with her on the spot and refuses to ever speak to her again.
She is in tears and in her vulnerable state the best friend starts to move in and tries to comfort her and a bit more...
Now for the actual question, how would you rate these persons in terms of the situation. Rate them from 1 to 5, with each person having a different rating. One is the person who you feel handled the situation in the worst way and 5 is the person you feel handled the situation in the best way. Also give reasons for your rating and why you feel one person handled it better than another person.
i would rate the old man as a 5. he did not get into any of the drama..he simply told the girl to follow her heart. he is not responsible for her actions. everyone is responsible for their own actions.
the friend of the fiance is number 4. while he is the friend of the fiance and should have been there for him, he still did a very good thing in my opinion. he did the unthinkable and was there for the girl. afterall the boy and girl were going to get married and she would have been his friend too.
the girl is in the middle. she is number three. i don't think she should have slept with the sailor, but she felt it was the only way to get to her fiance and i think she was probably right.
the boy is number 2. i believe he should have been mad at the girl but i also think he should have realized that she was only trying to do what she thought was the best thing to get to him. she did not have any emotional connection to the sailor. she loved her fiance enough to go after him any way possible..and what did the fiance do? nothing. she took initiative and he did not even appreciate that she got to him.
lastly, the sailor is 1. he is dirty and selfish. he should not have taken advantage of the girl. if he would have just fixed the boat they could have all been at peace and this mess would not have started. or perhaps i'm wrong and the girl started the problem when she slept with him. if i were the girl in this situation i would have said no i'm not going to sleep with you and would have found a way to fix the boat myself.
I give the old man a 5, Such a decision shouldn't be influenced by others in any way- the girl needed to work out what she would do herself, not be told. 'Follow your heart' was good advice I think.
I give the girl the number 4, of course she DIDN'T want to sleep with the sailor, she was doing what she had to do to see her fiance. She probably thought she'd never see him again, this was the ONLY WAY to get to him. Instead of thinking that she cheated, I'm thinking about what she had to put herself through in order to get to her fiance.
Number 3 goes to the best friend, why is he comforting her, I thought he was the guy's BFF!?? He's not a very loyal friend!
Number 2 is for the engaged man. Instead of deciding that his fiance cheated, he should be thinking what she did in order to be with HIM. I don't class what she did as cheating.
Number 1 goes to the sailor. Because that's disgusting.
I came across this question at business school. The only detail different in that story was that the best friend apparently "put his arm around her", but no implicit detail is given to whether or not he was coming on to her. The story plays on very obvious gender stereotypes, if the sailor were a woman it would read very differently. If the fiancee were a woman, woman are more likely apathetic to a woman who has been wronged than a man. If you look at the psychology behind it, truly strong leaders rate the old man highest; solid advice is where you allow somebody to reach a decision unassisted, it's more important to provide support. Strong business minds rate the sailor highest; an opportunist who was the only person who walked away with exactly what he wanted. The other characters ratings are debatable based on life experience/personal opinion.
This is my opinion, it will most likely be opposite from yours. 1. Sailor- he should have not made such a deal in the first place, he started the main conflict (besides the storm). 2. Engaged man- he should had not reacted the way he did, I am sure he would have done the same thing for her (If the captain was a woman). 3.The best friend- you should never try to aid someone who just got their heart crushed. 4. The woman- She did it for her fiancé, not for pleasure. 5. The old man- he did not really give good advice, but did nothing wrong. The woman probably would have done this same act regardless if the old man was not there.
The woman reminds me of Odysseus, because she had sex with someone else just to get to her loved one. Odysseus did the same thing, but with more people, while his wife was loyal to him.
The engaged man by far handled the situation in the best way, so he gets 5. He had every right to be mad and break it off with his fiance, she slept with another man, regardless of the reasoning. Number 4 goes to the best friend, what he did was wrong, you dont try and sleep with your friends exs, but it wasnt as bad as the other 3. Number 3 goes to the old man, hes probley just an old perv or didnt care...Number 2 goes to the girl, she could have just waited to be rescued, she shouldnt have slept with another man while engaged. Number 1 goes to the sailor, he took advantage of the situation and used the woman.
I give a 1 to the sailor. He is a jerk and a good honest person wouldn't take advantage of in a situation like that I give number 2 to the girl, she is a cheater. You just don't do that. My number 3 goes to the boyfriend, why on earth doesn't he take his both and go to her, he seems selfish and only thinking about himself My number 4 goes to the boyfriends friend, you don't take a friends girl after that My number 5 goes to the old man, I'll assume that he is either senile or has the right opinion, it IS HER choice, not his.
nobody gets a 5 Thewoman-4 she didnt want to do it with the sailor she anted to get to her fiance sooo i think of cheating either as she wanted the sailor or liked him but noooo all she waned to get to her man soo she didi wat she did to get to him but then again i would try and find a way to get to my fiance other than sleeping withthe saior The fiance-3 he shouldve pt more thought into his actions The bestfriend-2 WTF hes the one the fiance should be mad at The sailor-0 what a frikken PERVE!!!!! dosnt even deserve a 1!!
The engaged man gets a 5, that's what I would have done too. The best friend didn't really do anything either way, so he gets a 4 by default. The old man gets the 3, his advice was OK; but he should have told her no way. The girl is number 2, she shouldn't have succumbed to the sailor's desires, no matter how much she wanted to see her fiancée. And the dirt-bag sailor is number 1. He is a selfish jerk, taking advantage of women.
Well I must say some photographs are required for proper evaluation, my good chum, otherwise my ratings will be skewed. I usually dont find it in such good humor to "rate" people I havent seen before, but I have to agree that physical attraction arises (among other things) first before psychological.
5: the old man, what a sweetheart 4: the boyfriend, I'd dump her ass too 3: the sailor, got laid 2: the best friend, not that cool to pick at left overs 1: the girl, stupid slut.
