What should I do?

Im 20 years old, and have 1.5 years left in college. Im engaged to a wonderful man, and planning to get married next december (2011). I recently found out that i have a condition that can cause infertility, or extreme difficulty becoming pregnant. I am extremely family oriented, and to creating a family is truely my most important goal in life. If it ends up that i cannot have children, we will adopt…but we will try everything under the sun to conceive a child first. My question is…. the longer I wait to have children, the more difficult it becomes, in theory, with my condition. IM READY TO HAVE A BABY NOW. I have been for a while, this isnt a spur of the moment thing. He is in his career, and i am halfway done with my degree (its an “easy” major). If we started trying to get pregnant this september-ish, assuming it worked right away, the baby would be here AFTER i complete at least two more semesters of college, giving me only 2 more semesters left in college before graduation. I know it wont be easy, but i could manage two semesters with a baby, i know i could…..even if i had to take a semester off for recovery, i know i’d finish my degree. what do i do? …..our relationship is extremely stable, it truely is, and all we want is a family…we have wonderful morals, and would be excellent parents… …….so do i wait to finish college, and have the possibility of not being able to concieve? or do i start trying now, where my chances are slightly higher? In my heart, its my family first….we’d be fine financially as long as we budget. I could give a care less about finishing my degree, if it were to cost me my potential-future children. What do i do?

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Answer #1

Well, here’s what I would do - have the family first if you can…there’s always time later to finish your studies, but if you miss your window of opportunity to have a child, you may regret it for the rest of your life.

Answer #2

Agreed with Colleen, but this is assuming you have a job as well as studies, and have a stable income. Babies are so expensive. If your fiance is “in his career” as you said, I’d make sure it was totally stable before falling pregnant. Practicality hits me. If he ended up let go, for whatever reason (esp. in this economy) you’d have two unworking parents and an expensive child. Just my 2 cents.

Answer #3

You sound very, very family orientated. If I were you, I would try for a family first. Who knows, with your condition it may take longer to conceive and you could end up finishing your studies at the same time as conceiving. I would start now, if you miss this opportunity, as Colleen said, you may regret it for the rest of your life.

Answer #4

I would go for the family first if its for your future.Just don’t wait too long.

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