I think there is nothing wrong with fantasizing about another person when you are already with someone else. As long as the fantasy stays that, just fantasy and in your mind, there is much harm in it, unless you decide to play out the fantasy and see this person behind your partner's back. Everyone of us who are dating someone or married to someone, all perve on the opposite gender or the same sex. If we see someone attractive or the way they behave is intriguing we do form a 'crush' on them.
I ADORE my husband, and he does the same. If you love someone enough, you love them to the point of being honest about those fantasies so you can share them with one another. It's not a matter of imagining a relationship with someone else. It's sex. Totally separate. There is NOTHING wrong with having an open mind as long as your heart stays with the right person.
Men doing it? I don't care really. I know I can still turn my husband on, and if his mind wanders, so be it. I think those that have issues are just battling with insecurity. As for me fantasizing, that usually only happens when I'm in an odd mood...and it's usually not a man :) Haha. I think that as long as fantasies don't lead to actions, there's no harm in it.
fantasizing about someonelse in a joking way where i'd tell my bf "oOoOo... lookie him" is a-ok! BUT fantasizing about a guy in another way where it's sexual and i wouldn't wanna share my thoughts with my bf is just crossing the line!
if you love someone so much as fallerina has already mentioned, you shouldn't even imagine being with someone else!
if you love someone you should really be fantasizing someone else, in a respectful manour would you appreciate your partner fantasizing the opposite sex ? i think passing the odd comments about other people is not really a cause for concern but fantasizing them is a different level and is thought to be rather disrespectful to your partner
OMG that's aweful, I don't mean to make you feel guilty but imagine how would your partner feel if she knew. If you have to think about other people, then why are you with your girl, if the thought of her isn't good enough then you might want to rethink your feelings towards her.
Its completely healthy and natural. But only if its occasional and doesn't always consist of the same person - because thta may mean you're thinking about them too much. Fantasize away, but make sure it always comes back to your partner.
naw.. it's not a case of a problem that you haven't found anyone you'd fanrasize about!! i think it just means that you are truly faithful to your lover - mind, body and soul! like you've said, "it's just the way you feel"
Its just the way I feel, it doesn't hurt anyone if they want to. Maybe my problem is I haven't found anyone I would fantasize about. I would think though I'd still feel bad if I tried it.
I don't think that is right. If you are with the person you love you shouldn't want anyone else or to even think of someone else. Especially during the most intimate times.
Uhm I think that was the point of the question? How would we feel if our partner's were fantasizing about other people. And clearly not everyone shares your view on this.
Honestly I think it would depend who the fantasy was about. As long as it wasnt someone they had an emotional attachment to, it's kinda whatever...
I would be kind of offended I guess..would make me feel like I wasn't good enough for him so he was looking other places for what he needs..
Being a girl who knows her man fantasizes about other people, I can honestly say it's not that big of a deal :)
Thanks, I think you are right. We have been together for 9 years and I still haven't done that.
Oh monogamy...boring, IMO. Why not fantasize? Who does it hurt?
Arhhh, where is the damn edit button "there is NOT much harm"
Fun? Escapism? Why not, as long as no one is hurt?
Heaven fantasizes about me!
Not until you're 18 :)