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If you’re one of the many lonely bachelors from North America, Western Europe or Australia who secretly desire to find a perfect eastern European wife, you should accept this desire and try to make it happen.
Forget the stigma attached to it, because many more men are beginning to desire a more traditional wife that is not only beautiful, but that will love them, help raise children and build a life together.
Join us and walk through the steps that will make this process work out.
This guide is sponsored by real Ukrainian Brides, a site dedicated to finding you a real Ukrainian wife.
Besides jumping on a plane for Eastern Europe and hope you bump into one of these beauties, the most logical way is to find a dating site, meet someone on it and grow a relationship online before meeting. The types of sites range from Tinder (not recommended) to sites that will introduce you to women and actually guide you through a range of events when you finally go to your destination.
This is the step that cause a lot of men to have problems. They are totally dependent on a third party translator who may or may not be available. Take the time to learn a few words like "hello", "goodbye", "you are beautiful" and so on, just a few. Learn how to read and write them in any language, seriously, it will only take a few hours. Setup Google Translate for the language of the country you expect to find a woman. As you talk with her, don't be lazy -- learn a few more words. We are not saying you need to go take a class, but communication is important if you want the relationship to be a success.
After you've met a woman that you like -- do not try to impress her. Sure, women of every country will always want a man that can provide for her.
But you do not want her to like you for what you can give to he. You want her to like you for you. Do not tell her how much money you make or try to send expensive gifts. This is usually a recipe for long-term failure.
Be honest about yourself. Even if you just make an above normal salary, play it down and say you earn enough to support yourself and a family only. And stress that above all, you are looking for a woman who wants to grow with you.
A good predictor of success in any relationship -- whether it be a woman from your own country, or someone from Eastern Europe, is to have similar goals.
Find out what her goals are. Does she want a family? Does she want to go to school? What does she want to learn? What kind of career (if any) does she want when she comes to your country with you.
If most of your goals match, it will probably be a success.
If all the wants are clothes and handbags, then you are in for a rude awakening.
Remember, women from the Ukraine, Russia and other popular Eastern European countries come from a different culture with different ways to behave and different expectations. Do some homework.
If you are interested in finding a bride from the Ukraine for example, then read about the culture there. If you want a bride from other countries, then do similar research for that country.
Here are some links for you:
The more homework you do, the less surprises you will have. And she will really appreciate you for taking the time to learn the basic words and something about the culture -- because most men do not take the time to do that.
Every country on the earth will contain similar behavior traits. It is important to watch out for some of the red flags when looking for a wife...
Your partner is rude to other people when you go out
They insist that you do things that you do not want to do or cannot afford.
They get serious and clingy too fast.
They do not handle money well, don't save, or mostly spend it on things that do not contribute to family or future.
Inappropriate social behavior in their own country (remember to read on the culture!)
Disrespectful to you and others.
Drama queen or king.
They play a lot of emotional games
They are not interested in your goals, hobbies, career or interests
Asking for things that you cannot afford or will strain your finances.
They never think of your needs.
This applies to you as well as a Eastern European woman. Watch your behavior carefully and see what they do too. Having multiple of the above red flags is a recipe for disaster in a future relationship.
When you finally go to her country to meet her, there are certain do''s and don'ts.
Do not travel with a lot of cash to flash around
Be sure to have already learned a few words of the language (yes, no, hello, goodbye etc)
Do show her a good time
Do not take her to expensive restaurants and venues.
Find out as much as you can about her. Mentally check off the list of red flags and get the list as small as possible (remember, everyone has a few red flags -- including you).
Be in the present and self aware and you will succeed.
Now, before you get married, or get a fiancee visa, be sure she knows about the circumstances of where you live (not exact location) and how you live.
Show her plenty of pictures of your home, apartment, work, and you doing some of your interests and hobbies. If you don't have photos, then take some before you even visit her, or you can send some online.
Get her to do the same as well.
If she is not warm to what you have to offer, then it does not make sense to go any further. Because if she finally comes to your home she might want to change everything.
Importantly, show her what your everyday life is like, not just the good parts. After all, she will be waking up to an unfiltered you.
Also be sure to see her without makeup or fancy dresses. This is someone that you want to wake up to for the rest of your life.
So you've done it. After long tries and many women you've found the one!
A quick way to get started is to have a Fiance Visa to your country.
Alternatively you might get married in her home country because she wants you to meet her extended family (this is actually great).
Make sure you have room for her. Closet space, wardrobe space and activities that she can do. Figure out schools, jobs, shopping places and teach her how to drive if you have a car so she can move around.
The more accurate information she has ahead of time the more comfortable she will be to start a life with you and she will have no qualms about leaving her country, her life and her family behind.
You do not want a wife who knew nothing before and is totally negatively surprise when they finally comes home with you!
Be smart!
Don't go into finding a wife with just your heart, use your head as well. This goes for finding a wife in any country.
Look at the pros and the cons. Will this woman help to grow your life and will you help to grow hers too? Will you both grow a good life together?
A successful marriage is not just about love -- because the feeling of love will sometimes decrease and increase as the months and years pass. This is why common goals are so important as no matter how you feel today or tomorrow - you will want to accomplish the same thing.
This guide was sponsored by real Ukrainian Brides.