The silent treatment is a very ordinary technique being adopted by people all over the world to satisfy their egos and take the easy way out of a worrying problem. As simple as it might be, it is also extremely unhealthy as well as an unfair approach to dealing with an issue. There are no concerns that do not come with a solution, and hence, it is advisable to embrace non-toxic options to sustain your relationship with anybody. Sometimes, we unknowingly tend to make use of the silent treatment instead of addressing the issue and attempting to solve the problem. However, upon realisation, you should try to acquire better practises for the well-being of you and your surroundings. Today, we bring you an effective guide to dealing with your partner’s silent treatment and helping them overcome this hurdle before it turns rather abusive-
The worst way to get on with someone mad at you is to return the favour and be mad at them. Don’t avoid your partner and instead, make the first move! Ask them what exactly is bothering them and try to sort the issue instead of ignoring one another.
If your partner initiates or shows signs of wanting some time to themselves, respect their opinion and give them some space. Some days, a little alone time is all you need to figure yourself out.
The silent treatment can be pretty harsh as it brings out the insensitive side of your partner. This ruthless behaviour may hurt you emotionally turning it abusive with time. It is recommended to talk with your partner and share how you feel. Let them know that this is hurtful and isn’t the best way to proceed.
Do NOT ignore the situation and wait for time to work its magic. Talk with your partner and try sorting the problem as soon as possible instead of extending it unnecessarily.
Apologise only when you mean your apology. We get it, your partner is mad and the easiest option that you see is to say “sorry”, isn’t it? But, do you know what you’re sorry for? Do apologise but only when you understand what exactly you’re apologising for. And this is only possible when you discuss the issue with your partner!
“Talk to me now or you’ll never talk to me again!”, “Talk or we’ll have to break up”, “Okay, so this is the end right?”- Bravo! Great optimism! Lovely assumptions! But, making unnecessary threats is only going to worsen the situation. Avoid giving your partner a warning or making unwanted statements. You don’t want these used against you soon, do you?
If your partner’s insensitivities show no good signs over time, think twice. Never put your self-respect at stake for somebody else. Your sole dignity is what makes you special, don’t let anybody take advantage of your only identity!
The silent treatment turns into manipulation and then into emotional abuse with time. Act quick yet witty to avoid getting controlled by your partner. Keep note of the frequency of silent treatments and make wise decisions respectively.
It is very likely that you get equally annoyed at this whole silent treatment thing and turn off your humanity switch! However, that isn’t a great way to get going. Have patience and respond to the situation calmly. By doing this, you will prevent fingers being pointed at you and your behaviour sometime in the future.
While discussing the situation and its solutions, do suggest your partner to think of a healthier substitute for next time. This way the two of you could agree to a certain method of showing your concerns using better alternatives. The silent treatment often dismantles relationships tragically with time. So, beware!
Once sorted, forgive and forget. Do NOT hold grudges against your partner for treating you the way they did when they were angry. Holding grudges and using it against them in the next argument is likely to cause a mini world war between the two of you then and there!
You cannot change a person. You can only advise them for their betterment. He/she will change only if they want to themselves. If you gradually start to notice absolutely zero scopes of improvement, then it indeed is the time for you to let go and move on. As coward as it sounds, a challenge isn’t worth risking over your health and well-being.