A love relationship between two individuals is considered an extremely strong bond that either evolves helping you grow over time or pushes you down breaking you apart gradually. Being in a relationship too has it pros and cons, and one of the biggest misbeliefs is that dating somebody is equal to giving up your freedom and independence. That is not necessarily true. The healthiest version of a relationship is where you have control over your own life and you do not have to give away the most basic rights of yourself to another person. And so here, we bring to you a short guide to being independent and free-spirited within your relationship in order to help you progress and mature overtime -
You may not realise but it is quite possible that you’re being way too clingy in your relationship. It is very imperative to have some boundaries and respect your partner’s personal space. This in turn will give them the intuition to respect yours. One’s own personal space is extremely necessary to grow and prosper in life, and should always be respected.
The moment you decide to start exploring yourself and what you truly want to achieve in life is when you know that there’s nobody that can stop you. Your willpower is what controls you, and as you might have heard, when there is a will there is way! Find your hobbies and engage yourself in doing the things that you enjoy. Make the most of your talents and learn various new skills to keep yourself updated.
It is just a common misconception and nothing more! You are free to share your passwords if you really want to though. However, that is not really a sign of respecting one another’s personal space and is rather contradictory. Giving access to your social media and sharing passwords is an intrusion to your social life and hence, to your freedom.
Your freedom also means that you have all the rights to spend as much time as you wish with your friends. Of course, you shouldn’t be misusing that freedom to do something that may cause you trouble. Enjoy hanging out with your friends, keep in touch with them and honour your social life sincerely!
Depending on your partner for even the tiniest of things is likely to make you lose your freedom over time. Avoid being influenced by your partner’s thoughts and always put forward your own point of view, fearlessly. Your thoughts are what makes you unique! Do NOT let anyone control your individualism.
Just because your partner disagrees at a certain situation, doesn’t mean that you have to too! You are more than welcome to speak for what you believe in and for what you think is right. Every individual has their right to freedom of speech and you shouldn’t be afraid to use that RIGHTLY.
Trying to keep an eye on your partner’s social life, their friends, who they hangout with, where they go, etc. are likely to cause you problems if done beyond an extent. Dating your partner does give you the right to put forward your viewpoint, but it shouldn’t restrict them from enjoying their social life fairly!
Your priorities will define what you really value and how much of importance you give to a certain thing. Don’t let your priority for your partner to build a wall between you and your other important concerns, like your career, your family, and you yourself! You must know who to put first and what their significance holds in your life.