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well my dad was sent to prison when I was a baby and he was there for a few years. he went there cause he sold drugs so he missed my baby life, and now hes in it again for the same reasons since 2004 when I was in forth grade. im now in 8th grade and hes going to be out in december. my mom is thinking about divorce cause he just bought are luv with kool stuff but I still luv him and I want him to change but I don't know if he will. and a few weeks ago he called and my mom told him how scared I was that if he came out he would do it again... and you no what he missed 4 MORE years of my life!! and thats a bid deal for me. so should I just let my mom divorce him... or should I just tell him how mad I am at him for this?
your friend in need Mariah M
Changing your old habits can be really difficult. Your dad seems to have adapted this habit which has caused him to miss out on your life. That sucks, I know. I can understand why you are mad at him, but you have to understand that change does not come easy. I believe that your dad COULD change, but that may be very difficult. Not everyone learns their lesson after being in prison. I don't know how close you are with your dad, but I'd say that it's very important for the two of you to sit down and have a chat. If you can't face him, for whatever reason, maybe you could write him a letter, or make a little video thing for him to see. Address how you feel and what's important to you. Tell him how much he has missed out on and how much you missed having a dad. Express those feelings, make them clear to him. Let him absorb what you have to say and then let him decide. Ask him to change. I say 'ask' because you cannot change him nor is any of this your fault. Therefore, ask him, and if he STILL goes back to his old ways...then..you'll know that you did your part, and that you tried. In short, give him another change and see what happens. I hope things work out. Best of luck!
Your issues with your dad has nothing to do with whether your mother will decide to divorce him in the end. I can only imagine that their relationship has it's toll on you, but it's up to your mom. However, you really need to let your father know how you feel about this whole situation no matter what happens with your parents. Because if you don't deal with it now it won't go away, you'll just keep it bottled up insided and carry the anger towards your father for years. That's one thing you don't want. Life has enough issues that will continue to come your way, this one you can take care of and in the end it will make you stronger. Take your time, think about the issues that are heavy on your heart and deal with them, handle your businesss you can do it. Best of Luck! PacMan
Aww, Im really sorry to hear about this. My dad is the same. He missed half my life too I havent seen him since i was 13 and now im 17. It's never going to change that you love him, because he is your dad, but on the other hand he has no right to be putting you or your mom through this. I think you should let him know that this hurts you really badly and you just want him to be there for you, like a father should be. I think no matter what he does he still loves you, and he might not listen right away but one day it will click in and he will be apologising. Good luck hun, if you need to talk funmail me! +~ Alanna ~+
Maybe you should try talking to your dad about this. Tell him how sad you feel not being able to of have him be there for you, and that hurts you. Tell him that you have just been REALLY wondering what he did this for and why he was so selfish enough to risk not seeing his own daughter just to sell drugs. Tell him that you have feeling and that he hurt them. He needs to understand that. And you should just talk to your mom about this and see what she thinks about getting a divorce and all. Good Luck, I wish you the best Mariah!
well you could tell him that your are mad at him i guess but only you can decided that no onw else can for you im afraid!!! but if your parents divorce theres nothing you can do to stop it, ive been there, its hard but just be there for you mother she will be goign through a tough decsion adn knowing that you are there to surport her it will make her feel a lot better!!!
Just tell ur mom ull stand by what ever happens. Chance if he did it 2 times there will always be more for what i know. Im here if you ever need to talk. ive been through alot so. Ur mom just want wats best for you she is only trying to protect you.Always remember that
I'd let him know how you feel - letter (less confrontaional and easier to make sure you get your point across) then see if/how he responds - I would support your Mom in whatever decision she makes...I wish you all the best !!
