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How can I learn to accept my boyfriends daughter?

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I'm 19 and I've been dating my 24-year-old boyfriend for a few months now. We have an amazing relationship and couldn't ask for more but I feel like something is wrong. He has a 3-year-old daughter and when she's around obviously all his attention goes to her and I feel really left out. Once I did try to interact with her, we coloured pictures and stuff then he was like "...I don't want her to get attached" so ever since then I've just stayed away. I don't know what to do, I really want to accept her but it's just so hard. Him and her mom are on good terms thank goodness, they don't fight over custody, he gets her weekends.

I don't know what to do, I just feel like when she's around he doesn't care about me and I hate it because when it's just him and I we have such a good time together then when she comes everything chances and it's hard on me going back and forth.

This daddy-mode is really starting to get to me, it's at the point where when she's with him I don't go to his house. I feel really bad because she's such a good little girl it's just... I don't know. Hard to handle going from us being alone all the time to her being around because it's a huge change.

Am I a bad person for having this feelings? Is there something I can do? We all went out for supper with his mom, sister, daughter, and I barley talked the whole time because all the attention was obviously on the little girl.

This is hard, I think it's just hard for me to understand because I'm not a mom and I've never had a little sibling.

What can I do to help these feelings go away? Or at least how can I explain to him that I'm not ready to take on his daughter quite yet, I feel over time I'll be okay just not right now.