How can I get away from this abuse?

My mother has 5 kids and I’m the 2nd oldest. I’m 16 years old and I’m turning 17 in November. The thing is..my mom is a lesbian for one thing and 2 she tried to commit suicide 2 weeks ago by taking 72 tablets because she missed her lesbian lover I guess. My grandmother takes care of me more than she does.All of my life she has been there for me more than my own mother has.She leaves me at home to watch my little brother and sisters while she goes out to the club all the time and party..or on some weekends like this one…she leaves and go to Austin and leaves me with the kids that she gave birth to. last week she let me and my older sister (who is 20 years of age) she let us physical fight and she stood there and watched it like it was nothing and that it was ok…she called the cops on me and reported me as a run away because I walked down the street to use a friends phone and we dont have a house phone…now that I have a boyfriend..him and his mother are very supportive to me..she wants me to move in with them and she hates the way that my mom treats me..there is a slight chance that I may be 4 months pregnant and she knows that..my mom always says that she doesnt have money to take me to the docter for a 26 dollar blood test to see if I am pregnant but yet yesterday she bought her a new cell phone and she always goes out of town to Austin. My boyfriends mom has been there for me ever since she found out things about me that she knew could effect me later on in my life…she backs me up in everything that I do..anything that I need she gets it for me and she does everything that she can..she has done more than my mom and she isnt even my biological mother…she gives me love like a mother should and she is there when a mother should be there…other than my mom she doesnt care about anyone but herself..I dont know what to do…she has reported me as a run away twice and I may be pregnant..how can I get out of my home? can anyone help me please? if so please reply back thanks!

Answer #1

It sounds like you are a normal angst ridden teenager in need of some support and guidance- I really hope you try find some- Sue suggested a few venues.

It must be really awfull to know that your Mom tried to kill herself, I really feel for you. I am sorry that you feel so unloved by your Mom, especially as there is no mention of your Dad being around. I know it must make you feel rather alone and angry. Its great you have you boyfiend and his Mom to love you now. But you know your Mom probably does love you but has too many problems of her own to be in touch with her love. So please try to accept the love that your Mom has for you even if its hard to find. Make some time to get to know her a little better, perhaps by doing chores or cooking together you will get to talk with her a bit - I insisted on this with my teens, once all of their interests excluded me. Although they seemed to think it was about slave labour or keeping them from thier friends- I knew differently :-) it kept me in touch with them daily and gave us an opportunity to chat . My kids are grown now, and we badly miss doing these things together :-(

Being made to look after siblings whilst your Mom parties is not so uncommon, and it’s not a bad thing either. If you feel that you are doing it to often, then make sure you tell your Mom that you don’t want to do it more than . Perhaps you could negotiote some pocket money in return and save up for your unexpected items.

Answer #2

WELL TRY TO GET YOUR SIBLINGS TO MOVE IN WITH YOUR GRANDMOTHER AND YOU MOVE IN WITH YOUR BOY FRIENDS MOM AND TRY TO GET YOUR MOM TO GO TO CHURCH. YOUR NEW FRIEND SHAMEKA.

Answer #3

wow…don’t hold back, tell us how you really feel. lol

Answer #4

Dear willaims09, Your 17….you need to start taking some responsibility for what is happening. It’s sad what you have had to go through but sounds like you are making some very big mistakes of your own. Health clinics are free…take the responsibility to see a doctor there. Speaking with a school counsellor is also free. Go to social services and children’s services. Both places are equiped to help you immediately. Sue…good luck

Answer #5

You MAY be 4 months pregnant? You mean to tell me that in the last 4 months, no one, not even this woman is the best thing since sliced bread has been able to cough up 26 dollars to get you tested? You can get a regular old urine pregnancy test at the grocery store for $10.99!! If you may possibly be carrying this baby going on four months and not one person has been able to help you find out–you are missing out on prenatal time with doctors and exams and everything. So I don’t know what your boyfriend’s mother really is all about–if she cared as much as you say she does, she would have gotten her grandchild medical attention by now!

At your age, you should also have found your own way to come up with the cash for your pregnancy test. Time to grow up and start dealing with stuff head on instead of waiting for someone to do it for you. Go get a pregnancy test if you have to take the money out of your mom’s purse and leave her an I.O.U in it’s place. Get tested, find out if you’re pregnant and start making plans to adopt this kid out to people who will care and love for it and provide for it in a way that you obviously can’t and won’t.

And if you have a savior willing to offer you food and shelter, even if she is a bit batty for not determining your pregnancy, get out and away from your mom. Get on birth control. My God, woman, do something proavtive to determine that you’re not going to end up just another sad statsitic representing what’s wrong with America’s youth.

And call your county court to ask about what the requirements are to get emancipated. If your mom’s calling you in as a runaway whenever you walk down the street, then she probably ins’t going to hang with the news of you moving out.

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