I met my boyfriend almost 9 months ago on may 10. We took eachothers V-cards 6 months after we met. I was alomost 17 and he WAS 17. I feel like he is the one for me. He is so perfect in every little thing. [yes he feels the same] about 3 months in to our ship he found out that I have A VERRY disfunctional abusive step dad. [slowly he got more protective asking me if I'm ok everyday] then asking me if I would leave him if I was pregno. I told him of course not. dont even worry. I asked why he said just asking. [ii was thinking oh no he busted in me omg omg omg] so I mad sure he didnt he promised. [I belived him] WELL, longLONG story short. a couple weeks after that question [the relationship is not based on sex] we [RARely do it] we were talking about kids. and how he wants one. he loves kids. and well, he was like baby, linzy, sweetheart...dont leave me but about 2 weeks ago I busted in you...A LOT. [we did it like 3 times in that time] maraculously I'm not pregnant. [I'm thinking he lied to me about not busting was b/c he dont want me living in a house where drama happens all THE TIME. I'M NOT SURE. HE WOULDNT LEAVE ME EVER HE'S ONE OF THOSE GUYS where I'm his first no chance in hell am I leaving. any ideas. If what he did was out of love?
ok.well. im not trying to fight anyone here im just simply disagreeing with somethings. well, first off, I do agree that you should of used protection every time. secondly, marriage may be a good way to go if your thinking about kids already. OH and remember you only have been dating for 9 months yeah that is a long time but not long enough.who says he really loves you? who says he wont ever leave you when times get rough? I mean right now he seems like a great guy. and im not doubting it. but if I were you just make sure he really does love you. if he really does, he can wait for kids, you can build a strong relationship and you can get married and have a family, but take your time. dont build up your hopes to get them crushed. if he loves you he will wait. not get all godly and stuff, but god does say that love is patient. and well that is waht it is. its very patient. it takes time. and well sicne I dont know you, but judging from your situation, with your step dad and everything, well im sure you have maybe some trust issues, and opening up to people and letting them get to know you. well I think you should move in with another parent, and get out of your house, I dont think its safe for you there. and its not helping with anything, I think you would be much mroe happier living somewhere else. but thats just my opinion. but when it really comes down to it. yeah all the advice helps, but no one can really tell you what to do. and say this is the correct decision and you need to do this for your life to work correctly. but these people this site, its just to help, throw ideas your way. so your call your decision. I hope you choose the one that you thinks right and is best for you. and most importantly makes you happy.best of luck. : ) --lost love--
OK,PROTECTION PROTECTION PROTECTION! NOW CAN WE SAY BIRTHCONTROL< BIRTHCONTROL<BIRTHCONTROL.
What the hell are you kids thinking now? Marriage and Kids, your only 17. You should be worring about college, and chilling and learning responsibilities not trying to start a family. Life is way harder when you have to take care of another person. Hell most people have a hard time just trying to care for themself let alone another person. Don't mess up your life before you have even gotten it started.
Now, as for this boyfriend of yours, if he wants you to get pregnant at the age you are, then you need to have his head examined. Who cares how good he is with kids, or that he loves them so. That doesn't mean that he should risk your future just so he can be a baby's dad before he is 21. And the fact that he busted in you, was just pure crazy. This means that he is not even giving you a choice in the matter.
When you love someone as you guys do, you don't do things to the other person that could harm their future. And I tell you from the bottom of my heart, if you have a child before you have your money,career, and relationship in order and STABLE, you will fail. Life with a kid without those things will suck, and you will have a hard time, much harder than you ever will know.
Be a person that is trying to enjoy your life. Learn new things, and see new places. But don't do things that will make your life so crazy you may not be able to recover from it.
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Why would he lie to you? He obviously doesn't love you like he says he does. He knows about your step father's behavior so why would he put you in the position to get pregnant. What would happen if you were? You'd be going through hell, especially with your step-dad and your life would never be the same. You really need to use protection. You're putting yourself in the position to get pregnant. Even if he didn't completely 'go' in you, you can still get pregnant with pre-cum. He wouldn't even know it if pre-cum came out. So therefore, you could have gotten pregnant even when he didn't 'bust' in you. Be smart, respect yourself. It sounds like you have a rough situation, don't add a child to it. Its not the answer.
first off. ummm you should have been using protection, so I dont understand that right there. secondly. what the f*ck?.. if want to really be smart here, I think marriage would be a great step before having any friggen kids. like do you want your step father to HAVE a reason to beat you down?!
