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My friends parents just died Like this morning. Shes 14 and not taking it very well. Her dad was on his way to pick her up when he didnt see a train comming and hit it. It killed him and his wife and their un born baby. I've never been through anything like this so I dont know what to say to her. I dont want to sound mean but I cant really talk to her. What do you say to somone whos life has just been ripped appart? She wont stop crying and wont let me talk to her, Im givin her her space but I really want to help her. Will someone Please help me?
Depending on the day your friends moods may change. One day she wont want anyone to talk to the next she might want you there constantly. The key is to try and read her moods. Be willing and ready to give tons of hugs. No two people are exactly alike. Watch for her signals. Someone said she may snap at you for no reason and not to lose patience. That's the best advise I can think of. Never give up on her, even if she is far away.
Don't try to fill the gaps in conversation. If she's quiet let her be quiet. It's not an akward silence when it's filled with love.
I'll be praying.
As much as you want to help her - you need to give her the space she wants.
She just lost two of the most important parts of her life and shes going to miss out on a lot in her future because of it.
Wait until she wants to talk about it, just simply say "if you need someone to talk to I'm here" and leave it at that.
I had a close friend pass 3 months ago and I didn't want to talk about it for the longest time, and people kept nagging at me to help and it honestly made it worse.
well I to had afriend that past away when I was 12 so I know how that feel is not the greatest feeling but all I needed was some space and time to heal in private but I always had the support of my friends that help me get through it.but im a guy so im not sure how it works for girls. I know girl are more sensitive but allu need to do is shower her with kindness be supportive tell her you will always be there for her try to make her laugh make her forget about the negative stuff.
About the best you can do is comfort her and be their for her make her needs your needs. . . have been their with my best friend. . . drove him 400 miles each time. . to be with his family. . . you can give her space while doing this. . . . But she may just need someone to cry with her. . . Help keep up with her class assignments that are due so they can be done in the future. Don't try to entertain her. . This is a time to of grief. . .
yeah; what stephanie said. my dad passed away 2days before my first birthday & I cry all the time still & im 13. she does need her space. wait until she lets you know she is ready. trust me its not easy too lose a parent. its horrible. I can't stand it when people tell me there sorry of my loss. I mean I know its nice but I don't like it. but just let her let you know when sheis rdy.
That is the point, you do not say anything. Let them do the talking if they want. Just gives lots of hugs and listen to them. If you feel you need to say something...you can say, 'I am sorry' 'I want to help you anyway I can' 'I will always be here for you'
Good luck. You and your friend is in my prayers.
Just be there for her, and be very patient because she'll probably irrationally lash out at you. There really isn't anything you can say that will help other than to let her know you share her sorrow and will help her in any way possible.
let her know you are there for her...but give her the space she needs...she will talk when she is ready.. she probably doesnt know what to say right now either.
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pray for her. and let her come to you when she is ready.
keep giving her space...It's the only thing you can do.
I'll pray for her this is unbelivably tragic.
it is very sad , be prayerful for her
