Is it a good idea to go see my cousin?

Standard protocol mandates that you obey your parent’s wishes if you are a minor. It is their responsibility in life to protect you from things in life that might hurt you as a minor. You may not always agree with them, but the fact is that they have more experience in life and can see a little deeper into situations than you can with less experience in life. Parents are far from being mean when they prohibit things like that. Just the opposite is true. They are seriously saying how much they actually love you by trying to protect you from what they might fear is a relatively harmful situation or environment. Let’s face it. You may not like their reasoning at the time, but you got to respect that about them anyway.

Basically you’re caught in what I might refer to as an “age related rat trap”. You end up stuck between a rock and a hard place and have to wager right from wrong against your own feelings about the situation and what your mom has to say about it.

Your cousin, is your cousin, is your cousin. You will always be realted to your cousins. You can always make up for lost time when you are of legal age and can make those decisions for yourself if you want to. For now, I would simply bide my time, respect your mothers wishes, and let things chill. It may have long range benefits actually. If your mother can see how mature and responsible your thinking has become, in time she just may change her own mind and leave the decision to you. If you throw a temper tantrum, or just take off on your own… you may get your way immediately… but you’ll probably loose out on a lot more in the long run of things.