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im 14 and really want a baby

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hi there my name is katie and im 14 years of age. I know that the user name says mum2be but I am on a friends account thats all. Anyway, for years I have been wanting to have a baby and I know it sounds crazy but I have everything worked out. This might sound really pathetic but don't critisise please because its all I ever think about. I have a part time job as a waitress and get paid usually around £20-30 a week depending on how many shifts I do. If I saved up with my partner until around October I can expect to save around £500 as I have other things to buy in that time as well. If we started trying for a baby in October and I did concieve, I could expect to be due in June/July. Because I would have left highschool by this point, I could then care for my child full-time until september. The money saved would buy all the things I need (prams, cots, clothes, nappies etc) I have done some research and found that I could buy everything for approx £400 which I would have saved in a bank account already. I have also researched a company called care2learn which pays for child care for young mums who are in education and it would pay £160 per week for my babies childcare. Now my mum works across the road from a creche, the same one both me and my sister attended when we were young so I know that this £160 would pay for a weeks worth of childcare and I know that its a good nursery. So I was thinking that in the september (I will have turned 16 in the July) I will be attending college. Now my mum could drop my baby at creche when she goes to work at 9am and bring him/her home at 4.40pm. By this time I will be at home therefore I could take over responsibilities which I fully intend to do. Futhermore, if I am in full time education I can recieve EMA of £30 per week due to having a household income of less then £20,000 per year. Therefore I would be able to buy the essentials (nappies, babywipes, nappy bags, sudacrem, formula if I cannot breast feed) and I worked out that this would come to approx £20 per week. I could buyy this out of my EMA leaving me with £10 per week on myself or on extra clothes/toys for my baby. This doesnt sound a lot but I am currently getting just £5 per week for babysitting if I dont work (I know how hard it can be looking after babies) and I dont tend to buy things for myself anyway. Trust me it sounds complicated but I do have everything researched and worked out. I have been babysittin for an 11 month old for a few months now and this involved bathing, feeding, clothing, getting up in the night etc so I know what to expect however it has just increased the desire to have a baby much more. Also do not presume that due to my feelings I am some chav who lives on a coucil estate (that is not made to be disrespectful all I mean is that it the stereotypical view on teenage mums when there are thousands of wonderful teenage mums across the country regardless of their living conditions). I am a straight A student predicted to achieve all A grades and one Astar in my GCSE's. Please just comment on my situation but please be polite. Thankyou for reading this and sorry that its so long! xxx

after I have read all your answers I wud just like to say thankyou for mekin me realise I was being stupid and immature. A baby is not a doll and to have a child would ruin not only my life, but my families, and the childs as I could not offer it what they deserve in life. Thankyou!

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