How Long do I wait to have another baby after my son died at 7 months of SIDS?
Thank you all again. My husband and I talked tonight and I told him I am just not ready right now. He is so against it right now so he was glad. I told him it probably won't be very healthy to be pregnant and to be so up and down with my emotions, especially if I was pregnant. He and I agreed to talk in 6 months from now to see where we are and go from there. I just wish I had my baby back. I want to hold him sooo badly. I want to smell him and kiss him and tickle him. I want to sing him to sleep while rocking him in the chair. I just wish so many things. I loved him with all my heart. He was everything I had ever wanted in a little boy. Biggest Blue eyes; I'm half Mexican dark hair skin and eyes so I never imagined I would fulfill that wish, but there he was. Big Blue Eyes and his hair lightened each day. I think it would have been blond since his eyebrows were almost invisible. He was PERFECT to me. We have three daughters already and all we ever wanted was a little boy to teach baseball to or to take fishing and play football. He was amazing. I just can't believe it isn't a dream. I miss my Bubba. Keaton McCoy Huebner was an angel and now he's my Guardian Angel forever and ever. I can't wait for the day I can hold him in my arms again. Oh I just can't wait. Much Love to all. Vanessa
Im so sorry for your loss. I think that you should give this a lot of thought and you and your partner should discuss it before rusing into anything. Since it has only been 2 weeks and you say you have these strong feelings of wanting to be needed like you were with him, those feelings might be because your wanting HIM and missing HIM not because you just want to fill a void. I don't know if that makes sense, its hard to put into words what im trying to say. You will know when your ready, take this time to heal from your loss. Once again im sorry and I know your little man is in a beautiful place where he can play all day and is thinking about what a great mother he had if only for a short time.
I'm deeply sorry for your loss :-(
noone here or anyone in your life other than yourself & partner can tell you when to start trying for another baby...
only you can really answer that!!
are you feeling ready? are you strong enough, emotionally & physically?
2 weeks is such a short time, just need time to mourn & I wish I could make it easier 4 you but I cant!
I think if you wait at least 1 year before you get pregnant again is good but no sooner!
im just sooo sorry for the loss of your baby! just know that he is with the Lord & you can see him & hold him when its your time to be with him!
my deepest condolonces & I Pray that it getseasier 4 you as time goes by!!
THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR ALL YOUR ADVICE. You can see my baby and sign his guest book at
www.star-telegram.com/obituaries
Last Name: HUEBNER
Scroll down and see my precious baby boy Keaton
We have a Keaton Huebner Memorial Fund set up at any Wells Fargo Bank for donations in helping with Funeral Expenses... You just don't plan to bury your baby. You are supposed to start college funds, ect... but not something like this. It is the most horrible thing a mother ever has to do... Miss you BUBBA
It's only been two weeks since he passed. I buried my baby on Christmas Eve. I miss him terribly. My whole body and soul wants to care for a baby and I would NEVER want to replace him but I need a baby to care for. I need to be needed like that again. I know it won't be right away but I was wondering if there is some legit time frame a person should wait before trying again. Thanks for all advice... Much Love Vanessa
Aww im so sorry :( My friends baby died of the same thing when he was 6months she was only 15yrs old, But shes taking it really hard.
Once you & your partner agree that you are emotionally & phsyically ready then consider the idea of having another baby. I hope everything is fine & im sorry for your loss.
IM SOOO SRY SWEETIE FOR YOUR LOST I CUDNT IMAGINE LOSING SOMEONE SO CLOSE...I HAVE NO IDEA HOW LONG YOU SHUD WAIT BUT I THINK YOU SHUD TAKE YOUR TIME AND DO IT when you KNOW FOR SURE YOUR READY RIGHT NOWING YOUR GOING THRU a lot SO PLS JUST TAKE YOUR TIME..GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY..GOOD LUCK...
oh god... I have a 4 months old daughter and reading your story has made me cry. Its so hard to beleive that young babies/children dies while there is so many bad people out there that deserve it more then those lil angels... Ill be praying for you and for your beautiful baby boy.
I am so sorry about your son. this is a personal matter relly if you feel strong enought, ready and its relly what you want then go for it. this world can always squeeze in one more precious gift!
I am so sorry for your loss - your Angel would want you to be happy - there's no set time period, just go with what your heart tells you - God bless you, you're in my thoughts and prayers.
Two weeks? Aww babe I honestly dont think your ready just yet. All these emotions your feeling could affect your pregnancy. Wait just a bit longer.
YOU CAN ALSO FUNMAIL ME ANYTIME YOU NEED SOME ONE TO TALK TO I SEE YOU LIVE IN KELLER TX I LIVE IN DALLAS JUST A COUPLE HRS AWAY GOOD LUCK...
its recommended that you wait till 2years time to have another baby... but you can go ahead and have one now.. my condolence!
