A few months ago I found out that my dad and brother ,who was 9 at the time, died when the Estonia Ferry sank in 1994. This happened before I was born so I have never met them and because of this I am always sad and crying and never feeling happy.
So how can I stop feeling like this??
My suggestion is to talk to your mom as much as possible about them. You might even want to start scrap books, one for each of them where you can put pictures and other information about them that you can look at from time to time.
Fun Mail a "sounding board"!
I would assume that you can't talk about what you are going through with anyone because it is too personal and you don't want others to know about it in relation to you.
The solution, then, might be to pick someone on Fun Advice whose advice you like and Fun Mail them. (You can check out the quality of someone's advice by clicking on their name; going down to their recent advice, click on view all, then click on the questions that might interest you and view their answers.) Explain to them that you are having problems and want to have someone to use as a "sounding board" and would like to know if they would be willing to be your sounding board. Fun Mail is basically private, so you shouldn't have any concerns about your privacy.
Although there are many users on Fun Advice who would be qualified, I'd suggest the person be an Advisor, for two reasons: First, most Advisors have several hundred or even thousands of Answers under their belt which can really give you a perspective about them; and second, you can simply click on the Advisors link at the top of the page and view a list of the most recently active Advisors with information about them AND a total of their Answers. (Don't contact them by that "Ask me a question" link. That's public. Instead, click on their name which will take you to their Profile page, then click on the "Send me Fun Mail" link on the left side of the page.)
You also have the ability to Fun Mail anyone (Advisor or otherwise) by clicking on the "Send me Fun Mail" link near the top of the Answer under the person's name.
Simply a Rose to brighten your day, And maybe lessen the cares in your way; And also, too, to help you to know, That in knowing you, many others grow!
Everybody gets spats of depression from time to time but obviously two deaths in the family is a little more drastic and you are going to be feeling really low. I am trying to overcome mental problems too but have realised I need proffesionl help and got booked in today. I think that's also what you need to do. Talk to your doctor and he can refer you to a specialist.
In the mean time try to keep strong. You are far better of than many people and I know it sounds hard but you can get over this one day :)
do stuff to get your mind off! like exercise is great!! focus on the good things in your life!! we all are up and down in life but LIFE GOES ON and we only live once so we might enjoy it as much as we can
if ya ever feeling this way again, maybe trying http://www.blahtherapy.com
the site connects you to someone who is willing to talk to you about your problems. see it as, your unofficial counselor.
I think it's okay to be that way temporarily but if it continues over the next 2-3 months. Seek counseling. It could help to talk to someone.
