What do you think....I was embarrassed in front of boys and they still wan't me to apologize!?

Personally, I think your friend’s Mother was out of order with her totally over the top behaviour.

Nevertheless, you were in her house, and it would seem that you broke the “House Rules” of your hosts.

Nobody likes to be forced to apologize when they think they have done nothing wrong, even less so when they feel that they themselves have been badly treated.

However, I would be inclined to “bite my lip” and apologize for the sake of your future friendship.

Would it really be that hard to say:

“I am very sorry that I betrayed your trust by breaking your rules and for smoking behind your back without asking for permission first.”

With a bit of luck your friend’s mother will also apologize for over reacting. But I wouldn’t “push for it” if she doesn’t offer one voluntarily.

– Best wishes - Majikthise.

PS - I detest smoking, but I would not have treated you like that if you had been smoking secretly in my house.

My friend and I bought were being totally stupid and thought we’d pretend to be cool by buying cigs off this guy at school so that we could try smoking when I was spending the night at her house. Since it was freezing outside and we lack the ability to think about consequences we decided to be even more idiotic and try it in the bathroom after showering. My friend was being a baby so I decided to be the foolish one tried it first. Well I guess her mom smelled the smoke, because she started banging on the door and telling us to open it. Of course my friend freaks and her mom comes in all mad and especially at me because I was still holding the cig (and also at the fact that it looks like I may have been bullying her daughter into doing something incredibly stupid by putting peer pressure on her and calling her a ‘baby’). That sounds a little more accurate. You’re pissed because you brought cigarettes into her house? Stop whining and apologize for doing something incredibly stupid. You deserve to be treated like a 5 year old if you’re going to act like one. No, I’ve never had to do anything like that. I actually had the ability to recognize when I was at fault and try to make amends. Good for your mom for trying to teach that to you.

What your friend’s mother did was totally unnecessary. That was abusive behavior. Yes you may have smoked in her house which was disrespectful without asking, but what she did was worst than what you guys did. Forcing someone to apologize, is also wrong. You DON’T use force on someone… They apologize when their ready to apologize. But instead, you could’ve still apologized nicely. Why didn’t you just bundle up warmly to try the smoke? Obviously you guys were too scared to get caught. Its best to not risk it like that. Her mother also exposed you… She should have waited until you were finished getting dressed and than spoke to you. You could’ve said, “I apologize for disrespecting you in your house and smoking behind your back without getting permission to first smoke… But I did not appreciate you grabbing me and had me exposed in front of your family.”

I agree with Ty. Also, you are 18? This sounds like something from a 14 or 15 year old, possibly younger. Either grow up, or correct you age because something isn’t right.

lol i think you deserve anythin you get. smoking in ur friends house while the parents r there?? faiiiiil