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Everyone else has given some very good advice but I will add one more thing.
Never let anyone dictate how you grieve. I lost my best friend to cancer and people were always asking me when I would get over it, or they would tell me "it has been two days, stop using the dead friend excuse."
I moved through life like nothing was wrong and two years later I still don't have closure because of it. Do NOT ever let someone make you feel like you are taking too long to grieve, and don't you EVER let someone tell you that you are using your dad as an excuse not to do something.
Take some time, and let you be you. I don't know your dad, but I think that is what he would have wanted for you.
Talk about him a lot, talk about the good times and the crazy things he did, and maybe do something special on his birthday. I focussed a lot on the day my dad died and every year it was very painful. Then a good friend asked me why I should use that date as a shrine when it was not a good day, but the worst day of my life. So now I remember his birthday and I still after all these years, talk about him to anyone who's interested.
Right now it's still like a fresh wound for you... but eventually you will feel like you can focus, but nothing will ever be the same again. We just learn to live around it, and accept it as part of our lives.
oh im so sorry. it sounds like hes in pain.and i just lost a family member the other week and i just remind myself that they were in a lot of pain and that they are now in a better place with no more pain. just remember the good times you had with him and always remember that your dad would rather you be happy then sad. if you need im always here and you can fun mail if you need to talk to someone
im so sorry about your dad but i would think that hes in a better place now spend time with your family and friends and have fun not trying to enjoy hes dead but to keep you happy try talking to your mom and other people about if you start getting ready sad if you need help you can funmail me:)
The best way to do it is by spending much time with family because they are the only people who will ever know how much pain you're in after your loss. If you feel they won't help, if you can afford to, go out and get some therapy.
If you need someone to talk to, I'm here.
everything went wrong with him because he got a nasty infection which led to his other organs just shutting down, and the hardest part was watching him give up he went from like 225 pds to like supermodel skinny that was probably the hardest part
I know you don't really know me, but I'm easy to talk to... If you ever need to talk about this, I'm here for you. I know how hard this can be..
im sorry to hear about your dad. May i ask what happend? you dont have to tell me if you want
Thank you soooo much for your support it really matter's