How do you tell an 11 year old what girl an erection is?

Ha Ha, Very funny

I would just explain to her that both males and females can feel ‘turned on’ or sexually aroused when thinking about certain things, which is perfectly normal, but that each sex reacts to this in a different way. Explain how this feels for a female, so she understands that, and then say that in males, when they feel sexually excited, the blood rushes to their penis, causing it to become erect, which means hard. Then if you wanted, you could explain that a penis needs to be erect for sexual activity, which is why it happens, and it is normal. Just because a male can have an erection though, it does not mean he is emotionally ready for sex and it is just his body’s way of telling him that he likes what he is seeing or thinking about.

Then you can lead onto telling her not to have sex unless she is ready and everything else you want her to know.

My mother used a book to help talk to me about these things, so it is worth looking for one. These will usually be right at the bottom of the teen section in your local bookshop, or in the ‘educational’ part- just explain to a member of staff that you want to help teach your child about sex and need a book about it, and they can help you find one :) It may be easier to use this approach as then you can cover everything, from being turned on, to what sex is, to contraception and everything, all in one place. You coudl do a chapter a day, twice a week so she learns everything she needs and you can be confident that if she chooses to have sex, she is well informed. Well done for educating her on this, it will help her so much in the future and help prevent her getting pregnant or an STD just through lack of knowledge, which is the reaosn in the majority of cases.

Do u rememberer the name of the book? Thank you this for a family member and I think she will find this very useful.

Take her to a farm/ranch and point to some horses. They got ‘em all the time. Then just point and start a conversation.

When I asked my dad about that at a farm, he just said “It’s nothing” and hurried off. Next day I took my mother there and she explained all about it, so I said “but Dad said it was nothing”. Then she said “That’s typical of your father - always bragging.”

I did try and find you a link, but they don’t sell it on the American Amazon unfortunately- it seems to only be publshed in the UK. It was called ‘Let’s Talk About Sex’ and the link to it on the publisher’s page is here: http://funadvice.com/r/14vd4gcl9rf

Oh and you’re welcome :) Glad I could help

Sit her down and just have the whole puberty and sex talk with her and just tell her what boner means while you are having this talk with her. If you sit down with her and calmly explain all of this to her she might take it better

Ill tell you this. Just tell her either: she is to young to understand yet totaly deleting the question or tell her its something natural for men when they are sexually aroused. Or you can make it more pg than that.

tell her when a tree grows really fast as funny as it sounds it is true she is 11 im 14 i lost my innocence and i feel like that sucks she is 11 and she still has it dont make her lose it by telling her about sex