How do i tell my mom i just want to see her every other weekend?

My parents got divorced 5 years ago and they are now both remarried. My Mom is good, but she's not very responsible or stable. Her, her husband, and my baby brother live with my grandma still. My Mom never has money to pay her bills and her phone...

always gets turned off. Last year I decided to live with my Dad and stepmom and I don't want to go back to my Mom's. The arrangement is that I am with my Mom weekends, breaks, and summer vacation. But, I'd rather just live with my Dad and stepmom and see my Mom every other weekend. I have a lot of activities here with my Dad and I have my own life. How do I tell my Mom that I'd rather be with my Dad permanently and only visit every other weekend. Everytime I try and talk to her, she always gets angry or offended, starts yelling at me or gives me a huge guilt trip. It's kind of immature that she does that, but I don't want to hurt her feelings either. I don't know what to do, I can never rely on her for anything they way I can with my Dad and stepmom. My stepmom has given all of her time to taking care of me and my Dad. It's the perfect stable family, and I love it. Okay, not perfect, but almost perfect!

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well if I was you I would wait till a day when shes in a good mood and take her into a room and tell her that you love her and that shes a good person and you dont want to make her sad but you want to live with your dad because you always have something to do and hes not lazy.

hope I helped.

Unfortunatly, this is one of those situations where you have to be the adult, because your mother won't. You need to sit her down and tell her the truth in a loving manner. It is going to hurt her feelings anyway, so brace yourself. Just tell her that your life at Dad's is more involved and you have commitments you need to keep that require you to be there more often. The constant back and forth, double life is unstable and you would feel much more secure staying at Dad's full time. Make sure that when you speak, you use language to describe how this change is necessary to make your life better and that it doesn't mean that you love her any less. If you choose to point out her character flaws and irresponsible behavior, be direct and honest, and explain how that could make things better for your little brother. You might also add that you look forward to visiting every other weekend.