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example: well this is kind of a long story and kind of disturbing but i will tell it. well during the summer one day my boyfriend came over to see me, and he was with me (the whole time) remember that. okk? and 5 months later when my grandmother moved in my sister told my grandmother one day akira came over and said this to me.. and my grandmother told my mom and my mom told my dad and everything blew up in the freakin air.. and my dad starting yelling at my sister. (which are not related she has a different dad than me) and what my sis said that my boyfriend said to her that he couldnt do it with me (she was lying he really didnt say that) and remember he was with me the WHOLE time not my sister. so my sister got mad yelled at my mom and she called my mom and I whres... which really upset me because i am not that i do have sx.. i got taught right unlike my sis.. was raised from a different family and lost her virginity at the age of 13 and had a baby at 18 and she makes me so mad when she called me that i just wanted to rip her hair out telling lies about my boyfriend when he didnt say crap. sorry if it was long but there is the example.
Because you have not dealt with the situations. It would help if you could give us an example. What mehmet has suggested is called a relaxation exercise. The most effective method to pair it with deep breathing and use the five senses (pick a relaxing place, i like the beach, but anywhere will do), what do you hear, smell, see, feel, and taste (even on the beach, the air kinda tastes salty). That will help to calm you down. As will writing, or doing anything else distracting. But it wont solve the problem. To solve the problem you need to figure out what it is, and figure out how to deal with it. Is it in your control to do something about it? Are those actions going to help you? If there's nothing you can do, how can you help yourself move past it. And learn from it.
i agree. i happen to know that holdng grudges makes you bitter if your agngry because someone did something to you ..why give them the privalege of actualy getting you mad just dust of your shoulder..and walk away with a smile..forgive the person they dont know any better but you do and thats that it only bothers you because you let it bother you. simply being the better person makes you a better,happier person.
I can give an advice for you which is really easy to practice. First of all enter the youtube and search for relaxing sea sounds choose one of them.Then you must close your eyes and rest in your bed and start to imagine you were in the beach.Feel the sun and sea's sound. Just imagine you were in the beach think about sea birds fishes blablabla ....
This is the only solution for me when I get upset
Because u never forgave the person and or urself for the situation, thr was no closure om the situation
i will try, never done nothing like this before but okk. thnx
omg same with me.