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hey my name is mariya and im 15 years old and I know you guys mite dissagree but im interested in havin a baby my mother thinks its a good I dea also..I have A boyfriend but he has nothin to do with it..the purpose of me writing is because I was wonderin your opinion..what you guys think of it...I love kids a lot and I want one of my own I have job..unfortinitly I still live with my mother I attend high school and still plan on staying in school even with a child
So what kind of job do you have? What's your annual income at this job? Is it enough to cover a crib, mattress, rocker, bedding, baby & maternity clothes, diapers, baby formula and baby food, high chair, baby toys, a stroller, car seat, baby carrier, etc.? Did you know that all this stuff usually costs over $6000 and it's just the beginning? A baby typically costs almost $900 a month...and did you know the average cost of raising a child from birth to age 18 is over $170,000?
Sorry to answer your question with more questions, but apparently no one has given you a dose of reality yet. Babies are cute, they're cuddly, they're adorable, blah blah blah. The truth is, they cost a lof of money, which I'm betting you don't have as a 15 year old high school student. Unless you're parents are rich, in which case what they have in money they lack in responsibility.
You should not have a child! You are still a child. And I have a couple of questions for YOU. One, why would your mom think it was a good idea? I mean, maybe she was being sarcastic. maybe she was drunk. Or something. If your mom was serious and not drunk, then there is DEFINITLEY SOMETHING wrong with that.
And my other question is . . .
Why do you want to have a baby. I've had to say this 2 times too other people and I'll say it to you. Now listen VERY carefully. TAKE YOUR TIME AND GROW UP! Your still a kid. Don't rush your childhood. You should think it through until your 25. Or at least 18. And either way, how are you going to find a guy your age who wants a baby? Why do SO many people try to grow up so fast? Enjoy your childhood.
iTs nOt tHaT I JuS WrOKe Up oNe dAy aNd dEcIdEd"oH I ThinK I ShOuLd hAvE A BaBy.." LaSt yEaR Of dEc.Of 06 I WaS 6 MoNtHs pReGnAnT WiTh a bAby bOy i wAs LiVIng wItH My bOyfRiEnD.. oNe dAy wE HaD gOtTeN In An aRgUmEnT nD hE GoT ReAlLy uPsEt aNd pUsHeD Me dOwN ThE StAiRs oUt Of aNgEr.. ThAt nIgHt i hAd lOsT My fIrSt mY bAbY BoY..=[ And answer some of your questions NO my mother wasnt drinking nd NO theres nothin wrong with her she was really happy when i told her i wanted to have a baby because she was very excited when she found out that she was havein a grandson nd when she founded out that he was gone she was really hurt
I'm 22 and although I really want a baby right now... we're waiting until we are financially stable. Let's face it a baby is A LOT of $$$ not to mention your own medical bills from the pregnancy.
I don't think anyone could afford a child while in high school unless they got help from their parents or an outside source.
Wait till you finish school (high school and or college) get into a job and when your living situation is stable(I mean on your own...face it you won't be living with mom and dad all your life.) then you should start thinking about a baby.
And I didn't even address the emotional and social issues.
in my oppinion i think that if you are willing to take care of it and you know what your gettin yourself into then i think you should go for it, but you need to make sure that they guy is willing to stay around and be involved and all that. although i dont think it is wrong i think you should think about it more and make sure that you really are willing to care for another human life aswell as your own and that you would be able to keep your grades up in school, tutoring might be needed=] hope i was of some help;] x
Oh no not again...
Why would your mom POSSIBLY think it's a good idea?! Don't you think maybe she thought you were joking, and was being sarcastic? If she was serious about her opinion something is not right.
You are not ready for a child!!!
Wait until you are settled down with the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. Wait until you have a good-paying steady job.
To ensure a child grows up in a healthy environment, he/she needs a STABLE MOTHER and a FATHER.
You need to really think this through thoroughly... A baby is a big responsibility, it is another human life. This child will take away all of your social life and probably teenage years. I am 16 and am thinking of getting pregnant but I am keeping it till later next year (17 this October) when I am 18. Then i can really review what my life has been like with my current partner and if I am ready to give up my life for a little baby. You need to think about finance too.
I want the same thing but I'm over 18 years old. If you take the time to rethink things and still want to go through with it. Atleast wait untill your 17 ,even better 18-20 yrs old. Even when I was younger I want a baby, I got myself to wait. I thought I never could wait but I did. Even now I feel like I cant wait but I know I most likely will. Its just the best way of doing it. I wanted one really bad untill I started thinking more about my baby than myself.
i dont think its a good idea you have still got lots of things to do in ur lyfe before u av a baby. if u think its right to have a baby now ur obviously not moiture enuf. u need 2 really speak 2 sum 1 about this lyke a family memeber. ur far 2 young u should wait for a few yrs an then c wot u think.
For one, you should not be having a baby! You shouldnt even be having unprotected sex at 14 or 15... and sorry to tell you this, but I doubt you were pregnant at 14 and lost it, because anyone that lost a baby, would not type the story like it's a joke... grow up
UMMM IF U REALLY WANT ONE AND YOU KNO THAT U GUYS COULD SUPPORT IT THEN YEA GO AHEAD AND THAT UR BOYFRIEND WILL HELP SUPPORT IT !
iT hAs To bE sO aNnOyInG tO tYpE lIkE tHiS... ...I know it's really annoying to read.
Can you please type normal?
