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we dont plan on having kids anytime soon but we are always talking about our future...we want to have two kids, and our favourite names are leo and abbey. we have already started planning for a wedding, and he has even started to save up for it (we have $8,000 saved up so far) my friends think its cute and some of my family does too but other people in my family and his and some of his friends and other people think that its weird
I don't think it's weird, honestly. When you're with someone that you care about like no other, you want to have a future together. You like to imagine what life will be like 5, 10, or even 15 years down the road. Since you get along good, you also think that you can and will make it through anything. Heck, I thought like that with my one boyfriend. We were 16 at the time. It was nice in the beginning, not going to lie. Then things got really bad, and I ended up breaking up with him. I was 20 when I finally said "enough".
Anyways, my point in this all is that from 16 to 20 we BOTH grew and changed as people. He turned into someone that I could not even stand to be around. I'm sure he didn't always enjoy my presence either. You guys are still SO young, and you guys have SO much growing to do. You both will NOT be the same people in 5 years from now as you are at this very day. You will learn, grow, and come into your own. If you guys can make it through the changes and if your feelings for each other do not change, I seriously wish the both of you the best of luck and heaps of happiness. But.. don't expect it to definitely be that way, The future will remain a mystery. Just keep making the best of what you have now. Enjoy each other's company.
I wouldn't see it as weird, I'd see it as doubtful. I know you don't want to hear this but you're still a kid and this is cute and all but the fact of the matter is, very few relationships make it past high school and last a lifetime. When I mean few, I'm talking a decimal percentage of the population here.
You have to be realistic, not just with this but with life in general, situations change, people change, I know you guys might be in love with each other but sometimes, love just doesn't conquer everything, it doesn't conquer debt, confusion, distrust, arguments, misunderstandings, any of that. What conquers that is the understanding you both have of each other.
People don't want to see all this effort you put go to waste. I know you think nothing can stop you and all but, reality is cold and cruel... It hasn't been sympathetic to anyone else and it certainly won't happen to you. Sure you can prepare for a bright future, but always remember to prepare for the worst to come.
yea...we have prepared for the worst too but i think that just made us stronger...we have been through hell in our relationship...kids at school are constantly trying to break us up and his dad doesnt like me (but then again his dad is always calling him things like dumb sh!t and being obnoxious to him) and then my dad doesnt want me to be in a relationship and has tried to scare him off with hunting riffles...but all of that just made us closer....and with the whole age thing i have had tests and apparently i have the mind set of a 22 yearold and im thinking that might have some impact on the relationship...and then hes really not like the typical teenage boy...i have dated a few other guys and all they wanted was sex but with him we will sit and cuddle and talk for hours and he wont even make a move to do anything but we are sexually active but we are safe with it but we also talk about everything
My boyfriend and I are guilty of that too. We've been dating several years. Not sexually active yet, because of my beliefs and he respects that. And we both want a future together. We started dating in highschool, and now we graduated and now onto University. So many people broke up before the first week of University. My facebook page was clouded with relationship status changes. But we both still want that life together in the future. I am still cautious though. I do know we will change especially in University. But we both are still hopeful, and still believe we will make it through. And we still want our little Damean and Anastasia one day, in our small house that is decorated with antique-style furniture. lol just had to share that.
My boyfriend and I are guilty of that too. We've been dating several years. Not sexually active yet, because of my beliefs and he respects that. And we both want a future together. We started dating in highschool, and now we graduated and now onto University. So many people broke up before the first week of University. My facebook page was clouded with relationship status changes. But we both still want that life together in the future. I am still cautious though. I do know we will change especially in University. But we both are still hopeful, and still believe we will make it through. And we still want our little Damean and Anastasia one day, in our small house that is decorated with antique-style furniture. lol just had to share that.
hes actually really commited... i have photography and artwork on display in a local student gallery and at every show he is there and then i have paintings on display at my uncles gallery and he goes to every showing. i am really commited to him too...i go to all of his hockey and football practises and all of the games and tournaments. he has been there for me through my aunt dying (she raised me for the first four years of my life so it was really hard for me), and my parents getting divorced and he is always doing really sweet things like sending me flowers.
See, I find that weird. Things change constantly, you never know, you might not be with the same guy a year from today. You're a teenager, typical teens flip flop all over the place. In my opinion right now is the time to try new guys out, not to plan your marriage. Of course, when I'm dating someone and I really like them I'll be thinking about our future but it's more of like daydreaming about it, not actually planning it. I find that odd and sort of unrealistic. I don't mean to put you down though. It could happen.
Because you guys are only fifteen likely. You aren't all grown up yet and the reality of things might hit you harder than you think, you never know. Things are going to change drastically for you guys within the next few years of your life, lots of things are going to happen, it could make your relationship stronger, it could tear it apart, you never know. Nothing wrong with what you're doing though, so long as you're being safe about it you know?
im just going to say that i think its good that even though you have hopes, dreams, amitions and all that, you know theres always a possibility you wont make it although from hearing the things you've said it sounds like you might have a better chance than most people but just keep in mind things do have a ways of turning around...planning for both the good and the bad is the best way to go ... :-)
i do it too, we just talk about having kids and what they are named and al that. Girls find it normal, we talk about it all the time with our girl friends. we use the names we want to name our kids and use our bf's last name or our crushes last name to see what it would be like. It is normal and its fun :P. lots of people do it, so don't wory about hwat other people say
i dont expect it to be that way...i know things dont work out...my sister has been left at the alter twice and my parents marrige was horrible. i know things can go wrong but i have know my boyfriend for a long time and we have been there for eachother through everything which made us closer. so i dont expect anything...i just have a gut feeling that it will work out
we have been dating for a little over a year and a half and have literally known eachother since we were in diapers...we got promise rings last week too....i honestly think its going to happen...his mom and my mom have been best friends for a long time and thats how we met and we have liked eachother since we were four :)
im smart enough not to get pregnant at this age...like im on birth controll and we use a condom and spermicide....im not having kids until i have a decent job and i can afford them....like my little 4 hours a week job and baby sitting isnt going to make enough to take care of a child...i know that
Look it's nice that you're optomistic about yourself and you're looking for promising things to prove it that way but if you really have the mindset of a 22 year old, then reality must in be in check with you. There is no way for you to predict the future, remember that.
People think its weird because they see that your still young and that you may not know what will come in the future. a lot of people think "love is blind" it makes you say and do things you would NEVER do. i say i been there and done that its just a part of growing up.
yea i know because we are young there is a chance it may not work but everytime we get in an argument (which is rare) we always talk it out and dont hold grudges...we are very open to eachother because we both really want it to work out
People probably think that at 15 you still have so many changes to go through that to commit yourself is not wise after all at 15 most boys are at a point were they think more about video games then long term plans
we are sexually active but we did all our research and always use protection because we do want kids but not right now because that would be unfair to the child because we wouldnt be able to take proper care of it.
I just don't want you to get your hopes up, trust me, it's not pretty when it all comes crashing down, you think you're ready for it but when the pain actually settles in, it's the worst feeling in the world.
Ah, i wasn't entirely talking about kids, good to hear though. i mean with like finances and such. Like don't be giving each other your debit card card numbers or something stupid like that.
because you're 15. The truth is your more than likely (not saying you wont but) to split up anyways at that age. They dont want you to get weighed down with a baby amongst other things.
u sud nt plann future planning rite now...its too early n thats y pple think ur weird......lol...........u can never be sure of a relationship in dis age..i will keep on changing ...sis
You know, maybe you guys were meant for each other but it's still on uneasy ground. But things do change. You never know what may happen. Regardless, I wish you two the best.
I do kind of see it as strange. At 15 I was thinking of what I was going to be studying, not planning a family. It's not wrong, I just find it a bit strange that's all.
@janicee : best of luck and i hope u make it.we also hooked up during high school and i have almost finished 1st year of university and he in his medical :)
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It's cute and all... But don't get your hopes up. Things change. Feelings change. It might not happen.
yea...we keep our money seperate ...both of us just think its better to keep finances like that seperate
its not weird.... this is a great thing....... but u should clear that he is interested in making family
i know that....and im not saying i can predict the future. i mean i feel like it might actually happen.
bcuz ppl like to think its not pod ssible for "youngins" to work out later on in life.
i know that feeling too well...thats why i always prepare for the worse for everything
a little over a year and a half...and then we have know eachother since we were born
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You haven't said how long you've been together...
Damn it, none of my I's capitalized.
:} Good luck to you too!!!
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