How to get my parents to understand me?

They just dont understand me, noone does. I think ways that seem to be impossible to anyone other than me to comprehend. They make me feel lower than everyone I know. They act like they care but when I need it most they dont seem to care at all! It makes me soo sad, I cant take it, also im 14, and at times when they make me mad, I dont know what to do, I want to yell but I cant seem to yell and I dont want to brake stuff, but the more I dont it makes me madder, I just dont know what to do, please SOMEONE HELP ME FROM A PROBLEM THAT DOESNT SEEM POSSIBLE TO BE FIXED I DONT KNOW WHAT REAL HAPPINES IS ANYMORE!!

Answer #1

It’s something that everyone goes through at some point, its part of growing up. Sometimes parents seem like they have changed when you are around that age, and you have. You may not notice but at age 14 you are going through a lot of changes. You are dealing with pure-pressure, sexuality, and your getting more mature. As these changes are going on, you tend to get a little aggravated. I don’t miss those days, I remember taking everything out on my parents. In the long run, you notice it wasn’t even your parents fault. Its just taking your anger out on the person thats around at the moment. It may seem like your parents don’t understand you, but they do, and they understand you probley more then you understand yourself right now because they have been through the same thing when they were young. Just take a deep breath and when you are feeling angry, take a walk or something. Don’t start yelling because you may be yelling at the wrong person without even noticing it. Stop stressing yourself out so much, and remember… your parents do understand, I guarantee it. It just doesn’t feel like it right now because you may think they aren’t doing anything to make you feel better. But the truth is, nobody can change the effects of growing up. So, its best that they just let you be. Things will get better as you get a bit older, until then, just stay calm even though its hard sometimes.

Answer #2

my mom wants me to enroll to a school that I dont like cause im happy in my school now she always told me that im going to transfer to a new school but I wrote a letter and I know she already read it what will I do to understand me???

Answer #3

Whats your religion?

Answer #4

Hi I’m 30 married and all that goes with it.My parents stll don’t understand me!!!

Answer #5

Growing up is very difficult—for both you and your parents. They remember a little bundle of joy that they held and nurtured as a baby and now they see a budding adult. These days, children face things and know about things that their parents would never have imagined at the same age. The teenagers of today look older, act older and want to be older than their counterparts did just 20 years ago. It is the desire of all parents for their children grow up in the way that they should go (loving, caring, respectful, and being of good solid character). It is necessary that you truly understand that your parents have your best interests at heart. They will withhold privileges, set limits, and raise you to the best of their ability (neither they nor you are perfect), but be Thankful - They Care - many, many, many don’t. Ask them for guidance and seek to understand what truly motivates their decisions. One of the best ways to prove your maturity and prove that you are ready for more trust is to be respectful of your parent’s wishes and accept their guidance. Learn how to communicate love, honor, and respect to each other.

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