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I need help. I have a older sister who 17 and im 14. Me and her HATE eachother. We fight almost everyday and eachtime we fight I'm the one who gets the blame. Even though sometimes she's the one who starts them it doesnt matter im still the one to get in trouble. I feel like ever since my brother died my mom treats me like crap & treats my sister like royalty. My sisters allowed to hit me and take my things and call me VERY mean names. We got into a very big fight the other day and when my mom walked in my sister was on top of me punching me in the face and all my mom did was say stop and asked my sister if she was okay! and im like reallyyy?! wtf?! did you not just see that!? and I got yealled at grounded for like a month. and my sister just got "talked" to. I make one little mistake and my camera & phone gets taking away. My sister misses her curfew every single night and doesnt come home til like 1:00 in the morning and she gets yelled at for like a sec and just goes to sleep and everythings good in the morning. With me its a whole different story my mom wont talk to me for daysss. Recently I broke my camera on complete accident and my mom wont buy me another one. so far my sister has like 6 cameras and 4 phones. Also she gets all the nice expensive clothes & cellphones & stuff and I got a 15 dollar phone. No matter how may times I try to tell my mom I love her but she treats me like dirt & tell her how I feel she just blows me off and act likes she doesnt care. and I hate it. I want things to be like it used to be. so please help me what should I do??? :(
Well this is difficult for you, and it must not be nice... I don't think its fair that she favours your sister over you.
But your mum is going through a lot as well, she probably feels very stressed at the moment, and when she see's you and your sister fighting it probably makes her miss your dad as well, it can't be easy for her at the moment.
But I know its not easy to stop arguing and fighting with sister... lol... I have two of them =/ Maybe you should talk to your sister and say that you want to stop all the arguing and stuff... it miggghttt work... it wouldn't for me and my sisters but its worth a try.
Maybe if you try to do some extra things around the house to help your mum, (free of charge) and if you make a conscious effort to fight less with your sister... your mum will start to feel more relaxed at home.
Maybe try to have some quality time with your mum, or have a chat with her about stuff. Try to stay calm if she starts getting annoyed with you... usually if you just let her say what she wants... she'll get it out of her system, and let her know that you love her, but that at the moment you feel like your sister gets favoured more than you, just try not to get angry and swear or anything.
Maybe if you calmly tell her how you feel then she will be able to think about it more clearly... if she see's that it upsets you as well... then maybe she will give it more of a thought.
She probably misses your Dad, to talk to about you and your sister, to talk to eachother to decide whats best.
She is probably just stressed so she gets fustrated when she see's you and your sister arguing so she just tries to end the situation as soon as possible.
Best wishes, hope this helped a little bit.
My brother is 16 and I am A 12 YEAR OLD GIRL and he punched me in my nose and eye in public and I was bleeding all on the wall and chair infront of a lot of people and I was screaming...AND MY MOM MAKES ME SEEM LIKE I'M THE BAD GUY!!he also onced put a knife to my 15 year old sister when she was holding my little sister when she was only 8 months and hes 3 now...he got away with it my mom treats him like hes her man...he also pushed my mom into a door hard when she was pregnant with my little sister,and she gives him everything.He cursed my grandma out a lot of times and shes the one who helps my single mom with 5 kids!!!He cursed my grandpa out too,and my grandpa does a lot for us too.He throws things around the house and at my mom when she doesn't get him wha he wants.Most people that he knows hates him,all his friends turned into his Enemies and they all want to FIGHT HIM!!!He he keeps hitting us and treating us wrong he will end up DEAD,but not by us
THAT DAY WHEN HE PUNCHED ME IN MY FACE WAS(9-16-09)
I'm like the same way I'm the youngest one in my family and I feel as though I get treated like bullsh*t... but hey no matter what your mom still loves you... your brother died and that still hurts her. I scream at my mom for she can hear me I tell her why do you do this to me. your alway being mean to me. just tell her what you need to tell her maybe she could understand a little... and if that dosent works then go and talk to someone right away you can talk to someone at your school or even a family member!!! you just need to talk to someone I know how you feel!!! trust me!!! good luck and take care!!
my mom hates me to. she picked drugs over me gave to my grandmother and she hates me to I feel like dying at this moment I have thought about killing my self but I really dont want to. just give it a few and see if it works out
Lucky you are so weird my mom absoulutely hates me she wont even talk to him so im not lucky at all idiot
oh and my lil sister SHE is 3now ^ READ My comment you people are lucky you arn't me
Really sorry... meant brother...not dad...
my mom also hates me hippity do!
u know the him part I meant me
