What I really want to know why are all of you teens in such a hurry to lose your virginity? Do you find it cool to be 14 & prego or god forbid worse, with some transmitted sexual disease? Is it cool to be young like mentioned by DOR 18 & already with a child to carry around & care for, for the rest of your life...you have to sacrifice everything by taking that one risk by enjoying one night which if you are a virgin you wont even enjoy from the get go...I am sorry, but I am not blaming you guys...I am blaming the parents for not caring about your wear a bouts at age 13-17!!! We are giving young teens the wrong message that it is ok to be having sex if they feel they are mature enough to handle it...but how the hell can you guys know if you can handle it if you are 13-17...you are barely out of school & already trying to fit yourself into this sick twisted world! Is it your boyfriends pressuring you telling you sweet nothings lying to you about how you are the only girl he ever wants to be with??? If so he is lying through his teeth to get onto your pants...wise up...wake up...you want to be treated as an adult, start acting like one!
Personally I feel you are way too young to be even thinking about losing your virginity at such an early age...but I also understand that you are going to have sex regardless of what anyone says or thinks.
With that said, I must encourage you to take the time to really ask yourself if you are educated as to what consequences you tend to face if & when you do have sex! the pill can only provide 90+ % against pregnancy...what about all the other issues that are not safe by being on the pill...like sexual transmitted diseases?!
Please get all the facts before making a mistake that might cost you your future...talk openly & honestly with someone you feel comfortable with...If your mother is that person, just sit her down & explain it in your words the best you know how also explaining that you want to do the right thing, not go behind her back and risk wrecking your future!
try to be objective & hear her side without screaming & shouting because nothing good will come out of it that way...If you have a real heart to heart she may understand that you rather be safe then sorry later!
You realy havent got a clue! Its not like that..teenagers have sex because they want to, not because of boyfriends pressuring them...although some boyfriends do do that. Us teenagers dont think its cool! we do it because we want to. And the way your saying it makes it look like if you have sex when your young your going to become preg ect ect ect when its not like that at all! Were not stupid..we do use protection! Some teenagers who are a little older want children! I dont think its fair to blame parents, because although some parents don't care about there children..even if they did parents don't know everythin nd what there teenager is up to..its the teen's desicion not the parents. I dont think anyone is too blame, teenagers want what they want when they want it so leave them be, if they become preg or catch a STD then thats there buissnes, not yours.
I disagree with those that have answered this question saying you shouldn't have sex because you are too young or because your boyfriend is pressuring you. How dare they judge you? You are being responsible and taking birth control into consideration which I feel is a very good and admirable thing to do. I am 16 and currently in the same position and wish to go on the pill. I and my boyfriend have been sexually active for around 3 months now using condoms. I want to go on the pill but I too am scared to ask my mother, but I really think I should. I think we both should try and pluck up the courage and ask, trying to be as mature as we can about it. I hope this is something you are ready for as it is a big step. Good luck! :)
well since all these people are just tryin da play the mom role ima let all of u's know dat its guna be ehr decision i have recently lost mine to my bf n im 14 as well. we havent used any type of protection n i hope im not pregnant but if i am we are both willing to take responsibility so just make sure dat u r willing to take dat responsibility too. but back to ur questions i wud never have the *balls* to tell my mom but i heard planned parenthood will work something out with you check out there website dey have a grip of locations! =]
I agree you are to young to be thinking/having sex.there is alot of complications that come along with having sex and alot of risks.im not saying to wait until your 30 but please reconsider.i lost mine at 16, got pregnant at 17 and had my son at 18.i gave alot up for my son and needless to say his father isnt in the picture.especially at 14,you still have junior high and high school, proms, college, your health, your youth.dont have sex because you want to fit in.dont mean to lecture you but you should seriously think about it.good luck
a better suggestion is to not do anything stupid like that. Your 14. The ONLY reason you would have to go on the pill at that age is if your period is very heavy. otherwise there should be NO excuse for you having to go on the pill. So, unless thats the reason you dont need to know ways to get ur mom to get u the pill.
just explain to her exactly what is going through your head....she may say no because of your age, if she does then tell her you feel your ready
by the way im 14 :/ but ive came close to losing my v a few times now so i feel its going to happen soon...