Is there something wrong with my mom?

First off my mom is a clean freak, she does it for a living and she cleans whenever she gets home. I have eighteen years old now and my mom is making me go insane, because she wants me to clean like everyday ((our house is SPOTLESS)! I have a life I go to school and I am trying very hard to find a job, and where I live everyone is getting layed off or the businesses are going out of business. she calls me on my cell phone, my boyfriends home phone and his cell and yells and screams at me. she wants me to come home and clean, and it just sounds like she is trying to get me to go insane. I really dont know what I can do. I have tried talking to her once before and it never helps. im getting really sick and tired of living with my parents, if I had a job I would move out, which is another thing she threatens to kick me out of the house, cut my cell phone off. and just the other night I was trying to eat while she yelled at me for doing the dishes wrong? she told me to choke on my food. help me please. I need advice

Answer #1

I went through a similar thing with my mom at the same age. You said you’re 18 right ? Well even though she’s threatened to kick you out she probably wants you to need her, maybe not though I don’t have your mom. If I were you I would try my hardest to get a job in case she does kick you out so you at least have a way to support yourself. I would also try to get your own cell phone, (prepay is cheap). But you don’t want to do these things in a way that makes your mother feel like you don’t need her anymore (even though that may be what you’re aiming for). If a lot of people are getting laid off in your aria maybe she’s stressing about that too, sadly sometimes the kids have to worry about the parents. It sounds like your mom is going through an extremely emotional time right now and you don’t want to push her off the deep end and have her lash out at you or herself. If it gets to the point where it starts to scare you go to a friend of hers and try to get that friend to talk to her. Parents tend to not want to listen to advice from their kids because they think that as parents they are supposed to have it all together.

I cannot stress enough to you that you need to be considerate of her feelings even though you may be the one being wronged because if you don’t do anything wrong then you can at least have your own satisfaction.

Answer #2

Maybe YOUR idea of “clean” is different from her view of “clean”?? Every person has their own level of cleanliness…perhaps this is just a difference of opinion.

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Answer #3

Your mother may suffer from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder or OCD. Her behavior certainly suggests this.

You should try to get her to seek psychiatric help. Explain to her that her behavior is becoming a wedge in your relationship and that you think that she needs help for her compulsion to clean. There are medications that could help her a great deal if she has OCD.

Good luck!

Answer #4

she has severe OCD that’s all…she needs help for that sh**t. I get OCD tendencies when I’m manic, it’s not even that bad and it makes people go crazy. I get compulsive about wearking make up, and cleaning. and I mean I scrub every inch of the place…but I’m not as bad as your mom and I only get it sometimes. you can develp OCD because of her too..it’s acutally genetic.

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