Is it bad or normal to think about having sex with people?

personally I would like to put this under Se x but seance there is no Se x section I just put it here I am scared cause I think about Se x allot and some times I think about raping people like a fantasy is that bad or normal to think about thing’s even when you know there not good thing’s to think about ? I all so think about having Se x with people even though I kinda don’t want to I know it’s wrong but there image comes into mind like fam member’s and teacher’s and stuff I hate it I find it weird and when I look at those people I feel so dirty I guess is the right ward for how I feel and I hate it I mean this could be all do to the fact I was rapped by my grandfather when I was lil but I don’t know it does bother me it happened I am over it I don’t care he did it my mother on the other hand is still very mad at him for doing it he is in jail but still any ways I am scared I will act on my dirty and so so wrong fantasy’s I should tell my therapist and I want to I am just scared to and my fantasy’s have been getting worse and worse I am scared what should I do ?

Answer #1

ah lovebug, come on… you know you’re just making excuses… ok, so you dont want her to read everything on here, copy and paste this in an email to yourself and open it up for her in her office…

Answer #2

I understand but all so I don’t want here reading all the thing’s I say on here

Answer #3

I am a lil confused if your telling me to print it or type it and then print it out I can it writing it no matter what I will have to read it to her cause my penmanship suck’s and I don’t have a printer

Answer #4

do it on pc then print ot off…use spell check for spelling and grammer and font for a clear handwriting…shes done therapy before so she should understand… and she doeasnt exactly have to know everything on the paper…ones shes got a hint she should be able to give you help…

Answer #5

as I said above I can write it sure but No matter what I will have to read it to her cause she wont be able to understand my writing cause I have suckey spelling and penmanship and yes I want to tell her it’s just hard

Answer #6

I like telling stranger’s better :( lol and if she does have a email it’s a personal email not a work email and she can’t read it at home and yea I know was going to tell her yesterday when I saw her but I had to talk about some thing else and I was so tired I wasn’t making much sense

Answer #7

print out what you wrote above and give it to your therapist… you really should talk about it, it’s what your therapist is there for

Answer #8

well I have been thinking about if for a long time like sense I was like 8 I was rapped when I was 4-5ish and I want to tell her as it says above I just don’t know how to when I try to the word’s don’t come out

Answer #9

You’re probably fine. Everyone has experienced disturbing thoughts, fantasies, dreams, and desires. There is most likely nothing wrong with you.

Since you have a therapist and this is bothering you so much, you should definitely tell him/her about it. Just be honest about your thoughts and your feelings about those thoughts.

Answer #10

misscheekii thanks but I don’t have a printer and if I where to write it I would have to read it to her any ways cause I have wicked suckey spelling and she wouldn’t understand it unless I did read it

and umm yea sm1whoneverunderstandlife I do it don’t work

Answer #11

I think about stabbing my own sis but that doesn’t mean I would really stab them.. I think about killing a person but it doesn’t mean I would really kill them..I think our mind is just really powerful..

Answer #12

I don’t think there allowed to use the internet and I’m not allowed onto the comp cause it has confidential files all so I have sexual emails and I don’t want her seeing that either I understand I am saying allot of thing’s that may just seem like I am saying them to get out of telling here but really these are reason’s why it’s not cause I want to get out of it I don’t know may be I will get up the gut’s to tell her or may be I will at least get the gut’s to at least see if I can show her stuff on the inter net I don’t know though I am just a very scared very confusing pretty darn hypercritical person I hope that will change though

Answer #13

like I’ve said… you’re making excuses… you want her to read this, tell her what site to go to and what your user name is and she can read the question herself…

you’re going to find all sorts of excuses if you really dont want her to know… so there’s no point in arguing with you about every single one of them…

if you’re not ready to tell her then you’re not ready… at the end of the day, it is up to you whether you want help or not…

Answer #14

look… you can make all the excuses you want… if you dont want to tell her than you’re not going to (come on, seriously, you dont have a printer is the best you can come up with? write it out and give it to her…) it’s up to you… if you want actual help then you’re going to tell someone who can help you… if you simply want to complain about it, then you can post it here and you’ll get people who will sympathize and listen, but you’re not going to get anywhere…

Answer #15

You have a computer. Get the therapist email address and give it to her. Or better yet, give her this website and let her read your posting.

You are cheating yourself if you aren’t honest with the therapist. That’s what they do, is help you through issues like these. You’ve had the courage to share this with all of us. Now go share it with the person who can really help.

Good luck.

Answer #16

well…then asseao2florida said print this out…it should be easier to pucker up the courage to hand a letter than to cough up the whole story…take your time…writea nice detailed letter print and hand it in…good luck…

And I seriously congratulate you for facing your problem…many people chicken out…you seem to have done a great job so far…keep it up untill the end ok…? xx x take care…

Answer #17

Well, you’ve nailed the issue. If you are seeing a therapist you MUST tell that person. That is what they are there for. You must discuss it with them. If you ‘can’t’ say it to them at first, write exactly what you’ve put in this posting and give it to them at the next session.

Adolescent rape can cause many issues, you are not the first to have such thoughts, but you don’t have to live with them. TALK to your therapist, I am assuming that is why you are going to see him/her is to help you with the rape issue. And even if it is not, you need to bring this up to them.

Answer #18

well I know I should tell her I just can’t seem to I want to when I am in section with her and I try to tell her but I don’t know I just can’t bring my self to say it and yea I know it brings up issues and I know I am not the only one but till now I really only thought the people that thought like me where repast them selves and no I’m not in section’s with her cause of that well at first I wasn’t I think now I kinda am but before I wasn’t actually for the first like 5 6 months or may be more I don’t know my first therapist didn’t even know I was rapped apparently it was never in my file and when I told her it was a lil before she had to go in surgery so I think she gave me here to help me with that and all so my other prob’s I have

Answer #19

all I keep getting is give her a note I can’t and I want to tell her I am just having a hard time doing it

Answer #20

Your excuses are just that. You’ve asked for advice, you’ve gotten good advice. What you do with it is up to you.

Answer #21

I don’t have a printer so I can’t and it would be hard for me to give it 2 her

Answer #22

green I think about that do but truth be told I most likely would do it

Answer #23

I meant doesn’t

Answer #24

?

Answer #25

all I get is give here a note

Answer #26

hi girly I think its normal to get those thoughts everyone does diff. ones but still wierd… you just need to catch yourself and push them away think of something else maybe something more interesting to you.. like Jesus.. I noticed that people are saying that its ok to have those thoughts… let me tell you one more thing.. Don’t dweel on the thoughts! Like it says in the Bible… Whats in the mind will eventually come out.. Don’t dwell in any form. its dangerous… forgive you grandpa.. I mean forgive him.. cry about it if you need to tell Jesus exactly how you feel… Forgive him… it will set you free..

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