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My feller aged 50 has problems keeping a erection .and I caught him wanking off to images of vaginas is it indecent or should I dump him .although I love him any advise would be a help
Looking at images of vaginas and wanking off is pretty normal for a guy at any age and I don't think it's indecent, but that's up to your opinion. There's lots of reasons a man could have trouble getting or keeping an erection. Maybe he is able to masturbate and not able to keep an erection for sex because of performance anxiety. If it is affecting your relationship, try talking about it in a non threatening way outside of the bedroom and not just when it presents a problem. If he decides to talk to a doctor, there are pills that could help.
Bottom line: You love him and he loves you. There are other things you can do together to feel the closeness and pleasure of sex. Just try to be understanding and supportive and everything will work out.
if you have been together a long time then sex can either A) become a choir or B) Something that isn't the same anymore- the spark goes. You have to work at it. Introduce lubricants, toys and dress up in to the bedroom, it's sure to spice things up. Although a lot of the time impotence is a psychological problem. Men can have erectile problems from a shocking or embarrassing incident. I would suggest trying some sexual things then if that fails speak to a sexologist or sex councillor.
