I got pregnant when I was 16.. I did not know my rights and was forced to get an abortion... I have my own beliefs on the situation but two years have gone by and I cant stop thinking about how horrible it was and how bad of a person I am for it but..now I feel like not being safe and if I get pregnant no big deal... Is this cause im trying to replace the baby I lost or is it something else
This is exactly my reaction to the same situation my mother put me through. When I was 20 I had a few miscarriages and felt horrible. I was going to be extremely mad if I could never have a baby again. However, a little while later I was pregnant with my son and saw it all the way through. That was the only thing that was able to get me through my feelings of guilt, regret, and depression. It is a tough thing, and no matter what you read, etc if you feel so strongly about it then there is practically nothing that can break it. However I do not suggest just throwing care to the wind. Make sure you are stable to have a child. And by that I mean financially, mentally, emotionally, etc. I am not in the most financially stable point in my life, however I am trying desperately to let it not affect our lives. It is difficult, so be careful with your choices.
this is a normal reaction to an abortion (or at least thats what pamphlets and websites tell you) there are a lot of support groups to help you through these kinds of feelings...having an abortion does not make you a bad person...think of what kind of life your child would have had with a mother only sixteen and think about where your life would be right now if you had a child...dont get me wrong losing a child is a horrible thing to go through but believe me you are not a horrible person!
It's because you're trying to make up for what you lost...don't have a baby under those conditions, it's not fair to you or the baby. You're going to feel guilty, it's perfectly natural and eventually the pain will fade but until then stay strong. And you're not a bad person...you made a decision (or had one forced on you)...that doesn't make you bad or wrong it makes you human.
Good luck
I think it's because your making up for what happened before. but coming from a person is totally pro-life, don't try to get pregnant just for that reason.your young you will have plenty of time to have kids.
...AND... be sure that the guy you're sleeping with is aware and okay with you wanting to have a baby.
