Why cant my boyfriend keep an erection?

Your boyfriend may be suffering from erectile dysfunction. Some men experience erectile dysfunction as a result of physiological factors, including medications that can interfere with sexual response, chronic illness, physical disability, alcoholism, drug use, or injury that impedes blood flow to the erectile tissue. For others, psychological issues, including stress, performance anxiety, or self-esteem, are the source. Since your husband has already visited several medical doctors and has had many diagnostic tests to no avail, the two of you can explore whether the cause may be psychological in nature.

Does your boyfriend have firmer erections: during sleep or when he awakes if and when he masturbates while engaging in other behaviors besides intercourse

If so, then perhaps the act of intercourse is causing anxiety and is the reason for the partial erection. As an exercise, engage in activities other than intercourse. When you’re intimate, focus on non-genital sensations, such as kissing and cuddling. You can also pleasure by caressing, touching, and stroking one another, having oral sex, or incorporating sex toys into your sex play. If he answers “no” to any of the above questions, perhaps your boyfriend’s erection issues are due to other psychological factors. In either case, it may be helpful for your guy to make an appointment with a therapist. Depending on the therapist — psychologist, social worker, sex therapist, psychiatrist, etc. — and the type of therapy, your boyfriend may go to sessions alone or you may be encouraged to participate in the process. For a sex therapist, check out the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) web site and click on the “Find a certified sexuality counselor or therapist” link.

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