Why am I a bad person?

You shouldn’t feel bad about feeling closer to your friends then to your family. This happens to a lot of people. Your relationship with your parents goes through stages. When you were younger they had to be there for you constantly as you needed them. Now, you have your own life. You don’t need them there constantly and not only do you have more freedom but so do they. Your parents have to learn to be parents of a young adult instead of parents of a child. It is a weird transition for everyone involved and it doesn’t sound like your parents have figured it out yet.

I am sure you want your privacy and don’t want your parents in your business all the time. This makes it hard for them to know when you need them. Sometimes your just going to have to tell them what you need them to do. When you talk to them try not to make it sound like they are doing a bad job (even though they might be). No one wants to be told they are a terrible parent. Just tell them that now that you are older you need them to support you and be there for you when life gets tough. Explain what you think would work for you. Be patient, this is new to them too.

The good news is that a few years from now everything with your parents will be running more smoothly. This is very normal. Have faith because it is going to be so much better!