what to do wen u have parents that dont trust u bcuz u did 1 think wrong?

hmmmmm,its been 3yrs. i’ll keep trying.

It depends. At some point they need to get over it and quit hanging it over your head. And I’d say unless you killed someone, 3 years is high time. After that it sounds like control through manipulation, well when I trusted you, you did this. So I’m never going to trust you again. And so you’re going to do what I tell you from now on. That is not ok. Here’s the thing, I am not entirely sure what would be the appropriate action through your cultural view point (or what your cultural viewpoint is). Assertiveness needs to be handled carefully. I dont suppose ‘I am sorry about what I did, but if knowing me for 18 years has not convinced you that I am more than 1 mistake, than I dont know what else to do, and if you cant trust me than I accept that, but I am not going to continue to try and earn something I am obviously not going to get’. And then you move on with your life. And remember you’re an adult. Which is complicated in a collectivist culture, I realize. But at some point you have to realize that they cannot manipulate you in that way. You deserve better.

To gain back trust,you need to make them believe that you are not doing anything wrong now,for this,talk to them.for example.when you go somewhere and come back home,tell your parents what you did when you were there,whom you met and what did you talk. This can be done in simple conversations,through this they will get to know you better and also know what you did all through the day. So,you are most likely to gain their trust back in no time. Also,respect them, don’t answer them back when they say you anything,if you do all these things well,they will know that you are a responsible child and now you need to be trusted.

They eventually forgive. What did you do?

talk to a boy who eventually became my bf. i didnt tell then. i dont get to go anywhere at all.girl even. i cant tlk to boys either.

it sucks!

well you just have strict parents

really6? i didnt knw that

was just a observation

i was being sarcastic :-p

yep I know its ok but we have all been there and the ones that have not will be there sooner or later.