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Sounds to me that your parents may be scared of you growing up. Trying to stop it. But there is no way to do that.So the answer they give themselves is to take everything away from you so you can still be their little girl. Maybe a talk with them. Start out by telling them that you love them. You'll always love them. Then state, I am growing up. can we talk about new rules that will come with my age and maturity? and what things do you expect from me so that I may have those privelages. Let them know you respect them and will honor them. but in the same sense, that you are growing up! That they can trust you.
If it is that they are worried of you becoming a young lady instead of their little girl. keep your head up. Hang in there. no parent wants their child to grow up. :)
Sit down with them and tell them you just want to talk. Tell them, 'Hey I want to talk to you guys, simply talk, figure some stuff out and not be grounded or anathing, can we just talk?' Say something like that, be mature and don't loose control yourself. Make sure the talk that you are having witu them is reasonable, don't say something if you know they will disaprove or make them mad. If it just seems that you can't talk to them meaby talking to one of them alone, sometimes when you have a mom or dad together they tend to copy eachothers reactions to stuff. Or you could find a family memher to talk to as well that you know will keep calm and will just listen.
If one of my grand childern asked such a thing they would be grounded untill they finished collage. you see my oldest grand doughter was born when my doughter was 16. she and I both thought that the father would marry her, he did not she has three girls all no husband. it has not been pritty and things are still rugh for her. She is not about to let what happened to her happened to her childern and I support her in this. When she was 16 she was also raped when she skiped school. I don't know about grounding you for asking, but now you know better then to do it again.
i suggest you speak with your parents - individually or together, however you decide... but fight for yourself in a calm & mature way. they may be your parents, but at the end of the day they are just humans themselves. tell them how you're feeling, that you feel as though they give you no freedom or personal space, that you can't cope with the pressure that they are unknowingly forcing upon you, or whatever it is you need to talk to them about. tell them how it makes you feel.
I can't be bothered to type this out again. But I've found this works in a varied setting of interpersonal relationships. Oh and yeah, try to remember your parents are people too. They are not aliens trying to make your life miserable. They have a point of view.
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watch your tone! that was always my problem. Because i'd go into a conversation growling because i knew they wouldnt listen. Atleast that's what I thought.
do they ground you for everything? or is there a specific topic that you are trying to talk to them about?
Just anything. The whole reason i posted this was because i was at a dance and it was over at 12 and so i asked if i could leave at 930(it started at 6) and go to my boyfriends house until 12 instead and i got grounded for 3 weeks because i asked that.
EVERY TIME I TRY AND TALK T0 MY PARENTS THEY YELL AT ME AND GR0UND ME...N0 MATTER WHAT I D0....THEY D0NT EVER TRUST ME N0T SINCE SUMTHIN HAPPEN I HATE MY PARENTS BUT AT THE SAME TIME L0VE THEM.....THATS WHY I WANT T0 LEAVE THIS H0USE
Then I wud not tell them stuff, tell them if they want an open honest relationship with u tell them u have to b able to trust that you can tell them somethings without getting in trouble for it
not according to them. Idk what to do. If i try to talk to them i get in trouble. If i dont talk to them at all, i get in trouble.
I wud hope so
