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I am too nice to everyone even when I really dislike someone or am annoyed by them I just pretend like we're friends and I want to stop being like that but don't know which steps to take.
Best way I can think to do it is to ask yourself, "What do I actually get out this this behavior?" If you have to pretend to like someone you actually know needs a good smack in the chops, then what is it you gain from NOT doing it? Do you gain ANY special attention dressing or acting the way you do? And if you didn'y act that way, do you think they'd really care? I did an experiment when I was in high school. I decided that I was going to dress EXACTLY the way I wanted toand see which of my friends liked me for who I was, and which ones liked me for what they saw. This was before there were goths or emo's or anything else. I think it was just called..."Urban Creepy". Anyway, I went to school looking more or less like a cross between Eddie Munster and Billy Idol. (this is givin me the giggles to know I dressed like this). Okay so here is what happened. I Immediately lost 75% of my "friends". Over HALF of the people I had talked to and grown up with wanted nothing to do with a person who could think and act for themselves. But of the 25% that stayed or understood, I haven't lost a single one of them in over 20 years. I know every one of them still and wouldn't trade them for the world. So stop being what they tell you to be and getting nothing but a bad feeling out of it. Go be who you WANT to be and like the people you WANT to like, and ignore the ones who probably have a very good reason for being disliked by you, but you were too worried to tell them.
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I don't think that you need to stop being nice. What I DO think is that you need to start being a bit more assertive. You can keep being nice, but by being assertive, you'll avoid being walked all over by people & they'll know exactly where you stand with them. You just gotta take your stand in situations. Speak your mind while still being nice. And also stop focusing on what other people think! Nobody says you have to act like "friends" with these people. You shouldn't even surround yourself with the people you "dislike" haha, so I would suggest just not being around them. If they get pissed over it, that's there problem.
thats not being fake, you are just nice and tolerate people that you dislike, i think thats a good thing. you can always say hi be nice and excuse yourself and leave thats if you dont consider them s friends. but if they are your friends just be open with them and tell them whats bothering you without being so mean. keep up your niceness its always a good thing
to stop you should slowly change like start saying things like "no offence but i dont like it when you do so and so" or start doing little things like spending less and less time with the people that annoy you so eventually you guys just dont talk much then they will get used to it but make sure yo dont just change all at once ....hope i helped good luck
That's not being fake, alot of people are like that to avoid arguments. And if you rather not be nice then speak your mind more offend tell it like it is.
just be blunt and bold dont take anything off of anyone and say whats on your mind.
I'm like that too...it's called being nice O_o
