So my boyfriend and I have been together for a couple of years, and like any other couple we've been having sex. But just today he told me that he doesn't want to have sex no more because he doesn't want to God to think we're bad people for doing it without being married. He wants to take our relationship to the next level, but im not sure how to react. I mean IM HAPPY but idk im just in shock lol is it typical for a guy to say that?
Since your boyfriend seems to be finding religion you should clarify what his other views are. It is up to you wheather sex is a big deal to you or not at this point and if you are willing to do without. You also need to find out what his views are on the relationship between husbands and wives. Some religious people believe that wives must be obedient and submissive toward their husbands. I would ask if you do get married what your relationship will be; a relationship of equals or one where he is in charge. If you plan on having kids you should ask his views about discipline. There have been a number of cases in the news where parents administering "Biblical discipline" have beaten, starved, or froze their children to death. You should clarify his views on corporal punishment before deciding to have kids with him.
Maybe he's feeling some kind of guilt and this is his "suggestion" or way to try and make it right. With himself.
I'd also say that he has feelings for you that go way beyond, and more important than sex, so now is the time to analyze yours too, and see if you feel the same............especially if you want to get married.
I'd say that if the two of you have good communication and "know" each other...........then the answers will come to you both.
I know it is, because I mean he always believe in god because he's catholic. But he wasn't that religious and well he's been reading the bible and he got scared of the punishments that god gives us for our sins so he doesn't want to end up in hell. The whole marriage thing hes been asking ever sense we met sense day one lol but obviously I said no, but this time hes more serious than ever. He even told his parents and there happy. So yea
That's kind of strange if you two have been having sex for a while. If he actually wants to stop having sex until you're married, he's probably thinking of getting married really soon cuz I'm pretty sure he's not going to be able to hold off for too long lol. Anyway, I think you two should understand that sex is normal and 100% natural, a loving God would never punish you for that.
Yea I do want to marry him, I know im young but what we've been through is hectic and to be so strong and in love for years is like wow... And we plan to marry soon but no kids education first, im 19 and he's 24
D; You should have him read the Bible a little bit more because the God talked about in that book is extremely loving and forgiving of sins. XD He shouldn't be scared because of what he did in the past. ;o
Has he always been religious....? I really don't think he has anything to be worried about, but if he strongly believes that then there's nothing I can say to change his mind lol.
No he's never been religious at all so that's why it shocks me even more... Lol yea I know I don't think he's going to last long without sex, but yea I'll see how that goes >_<
Well I guess you're going to be expecting a proposal real soon because after being sexually active for so long I'm sure he's not going to be able to hold off much longer.
I actually do want to get married, and im happy he wants to take it to the next level and not many guys want marriage over sex...
Yea I know lol but he's scared of going to hell and yea he wants to get married soon >_< but im okay with that lmfao
Well.. people change their minds about things the last minute so in a way I get his point.
yea, I know. But im in shock, because he caught me off guard.
Oh, and do you really want to marry this guy at 19?
That's really strange.
That's really strange.