Why are parents 2 over protective ? Im tired of them always telling me what 2 do ! "help"
hello, this is the first time I have been on this site I was look for answers about a dream I have been having for a long time, I saw your question about parents, mine also had been that way, the standard answer is that its because they love you, and I am sure thats not anything you dont already know. Over protective parents all have different reasons, growing up with parents like this is tough, I have a child now, 10 years. Try this..its going to be hard but try it anyway. Look at your parents as people from you future coming back to tell you to watch out for things...but not really knowing the best way to tell you, and the way that it comes out is to say the least...in some other language. If this was true you cant say that you would not do your best to figure out what it was that they had been trying to tell you. Parents are always to busy trying to provide, that they sometime loose track of what is really important, and that is being responable with the information that they have for there child and have the utmost patience in making sure that the child understands. Often times when parent do this the child might feel that they are beng preached at, and in return puts up a wall, so it is equally important that the child share the same if not more patiences at this point. I have found that my child has a much better understand of the things I try to teach her if I stay away from the standard approach, and just try to be creative with things. Lots of times its that parents have just lost the confidence in teaching because in there best attmepts they are shut down by there children, and after awhile they default into this over protective behavior that children hate, its happens to be lot more easy for them, but really I feel it a cheep hurtful shortcut, but try not to blame them I dont think they know, chances are this is the same way that there parents did it. Its hard to change but change must start if you really want answers. If you want to gain you parents respect (not that you dont have it ) but if you want it in this area, the next time that they atempt to be over protective with you,(this will be hard but you will see results) try in a calm manner asking questions about the subject, and how there life experience has impacted there view in the current situation, be smart, have patience, and learn about life through you parents experience, theres might not be the same as yours, but they will be close, have understanding, unless you truly feel that they intend you harm. I know you did not think you might get this kind of answer, but you asked the question. hpoe yu try and hpe it helps, from Harmony
Growing up is very difficult—for both you and your parents. They remember a little bundle of joy that they held and nurtured as a baby and now they see a budding adult. These days, children face things and know about things that their parents would never have imagined at the same age. The teenagers of today look older, act older and want to be older than their counterparts did just 20 years ago. It is the desire of all parents for their children grow up in the way that they should go (loving, caring, respectful, and being of good solid character).
It is necessary that you truly understand that your parents have your best interests at heart. They will withhold privileges, set limits, and raise you to the best of their ability (neither they nor you are perfect), but be Thankful - They Care - many, many, many don't.
Ask them for guidance and seek to understand what truly motivates their decisions.
One of the best ways to prove your maturity and prove that you are ready for more trust is to be respectful of your parent’s wishes and accept their guidance. Learn how to communicate love, honor, and respect to each other.
its okay, they only protect you because they love you. but the more you fight with them is showing them you must be doing wrong.. you need to earn their trust befor anything.. some parents have it harder to let go. clearly you will understand one day they are only doing it because of the fact that they love you so much and dont want to see you hurt!
That means that your parents love you. They dont want you to step on the wrong path. Treasure them. But if they're really over protective, maybe you should do something to show them that you've growed up you know what to do. But of course, you cant do something that will hurt them. Good luck! ^^
be cool, you may just learn somethig, and not even know it.
grown-ups wiII always be grown-ups. you cant change that.