OK- public education question

I am a new member to this site- I joined roughly a week ago. It’s a fun place! When I joined I figured I’d come accross the typical angsty teenage questions like, “my parents hate me-help!” and questions relating to how to get a particular girl or boy to like you. I had no idea there would be so many of the same questions from YOUNG teenagers (13-15/16) about sex and pregnancy. Some of these things are so obvious, it’s shocking they don’t know the answer to their own question. So MY question is: Are they not teaching you kids ANYTHING about sex in school? Or is it that you guys are just starting to have sex so early in life that they can’t reach you with a decent education on the matter in time because you’re already sexually active at a young age? There are so many questions on here about normal body issues as well that it leads me to believe the education systems are failing you, OR you that guys and girls for the most part, aren’t paying any attention in your health or sex-ed classes. What’s the deal? ARE they or AREN’T they teaching you about sex? Because Earth is going to hell in handbasket as far as I’m concerned- you need to wise up about your own bodies instead of wondering what new positions to try or what new techniques to perfect…

Answer #1

You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.

Welcome to FunAdvice, btw. :)

Answer #2

we DO GET EDUCATED about it, I suposse some teenagers are just to stuborn and do what ever they want, im sure when you were al in high school the same was happening and my mum talks to me about it, she had sex when she was 14 and got pregnant when she was 16, and she has a good life and my eldest brothers sensible even though my mum had him at such a young age,l I’v had plenty of oportunites to have sex, but from my mums upbringing of me I’v learnt how much it can change someones life, even if it is for the better, I will wait till I’m with someone I truely love, and think about how much more respect children have for there parents than they do for the school, so I think it would be better if mothers were eductaing there children about it, because then we would have to listen.

Answer #3

unfortuantly, (thanks to mostly the media selling sex in everythng from childrens movies to adds about products not even remotley related to sex) chldren find out about it a lt earleier nowdays and thanks to those reaosns (and perpresure, or thnking everyone else is dong it, thnking a boy wont like/love them if they do, ect) there having sex a lot younger nowdays too as for sex education, most of these kids and teens dont even reach the year they teach sex ed before they go off doing itor before theyve heard about it so because they have no sex educaton they are either unaware of the consequences and/or dont know how to help prevent them also a lot of teens and older teens rely on things like frends, the internet, ect for there sex education and theres a lot of stupid rumours and myths gong around that are false making those kids think there safe when is fact there not though most kids nowdays learn about sex education the hard way that doesnt make them bad people better sex education would help (because lets face it, if youve ever sat down and listen to a sex ed class they teach you practically nothing, and dont re-inforce anyting) also parents need to be more open to talking about it wth their kids and educate them about sex as well kids are inevitably going to find out about sex at a very young age nowdays and there going to get curiouse and some (not all) of them are going to end up havng sex we cant help all of them, no one can and the media wont stop advertising sex in everything also a lot of people need to make mistakes to learn from them because no matter how much you drill it into them, some people wont learn unless theyve made the mistake themselves proper sex education is what those kids need and asking questions about sex is important because they cant learn if they dont ask

Answer #4

Without meaning to be flip, you ain’t seen nothin’ yet. Wait until you see your first “Can I pregnant from anal sex?” question. You start to wonder if you accidentally took acid.

Answer #5

well, it comforts people to know that they can get different points of view. I was SOO happy when I foind this!! [[todayy]]] :D so fun!

Answer #6

lol, mikah is right we get all kinds of , well sad questions like those like can I get pregnant from oral even can I get pregnant from kissing

Answer #7

not all younng people have sex, allthough everyone thinks so, im nearly 16 and I havent. Even though thats the legal age, that doesnt mean when im 16 im going to do it, all my friends know what there letting themselves into and are happy doing it, schools do teach sex-ed. We arn’t not as stupid as older generations think, we know about all the problems it can cause, desieses and what not. it’s just simply not a big deal for anyone my age and society has made it an everydat thing, which it obviousy is. hmm and people asking such stupid questions like ‘Can I pregnant from anal sex’ are either 10 or a bit doo-lally. hmm maybe its just my school that educates it well.

Answer #8

Jazlovestoskate, you make some very excellent and eye-opening points. It is good they are asking questions here, but a lot of the answers I have seen to questions regarding sex are just as blatantly uninformed. It truly is a case of the blind leading the blind in a lot of instances. I have seen a rapid increase in teen promiscuity and pregnancy in the 5 years since I graduated high school. It’s shocking. What happened to dress codes? To fathers refusing to allow their teens to leave with their navels and cleavage exposed? To mothers having sex talks with their kids? When did that all stop??? It was bad when I was in school- but we were at least EDUCATED on the issues. There were some who got pregnant anyways… but jlw82 is right, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink…

Answer #9

at my school were being taught about it like hell but we get taught it in a funish way. I think other schools might be getting taught it but there just making it boring so we dont listen.

Answer #10

Teens are waiting longer to have sex than they did in the past. Some 13% of females and 15% of males aged 15-19 in 2002 had had sex before age 15, compared with 19% and 21%, respectively, in 1995.

Abma JC et al., Teenagers in the United States: sexual activity, contraceptive use, and childbearing, 2002, Vital and Health Statistics, 2004, Series 23, No. 24.

It’s easy to assume that things happen more than they do simply because we see it more in the media and over the internet, it’s a cognitive bias known as an availability heuristic (estimating what is more likely by what is more available in memory, which is biased toward vivid, unusual, or emotionally charged examples) doesnt make it statistically true…

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