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Why cant my boyfriend make me orgasm?

I really love my boyfriend and we have been together for a long time. He can’t make me orgasim during sex and it makes him feel really bad. I’ve never had one before and I do not want to fake it. I’ve heard that if I masturbate it will be easier but that thought makes me uneasy, PLUS he has given up masturbation for me and that makes me not want to even think about going down that road. So please, any advice on what to do elsewise would be very much appreciated. Thanx

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Answer #1

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Have you tried giving yourself one? Some woman it’s hard to give an orgasm to because certain things have to be stimulated in order for her to orgasm. So maybe exploring yourself can make you find a spot that makes you go crazy.

Have you tried being ontop? Some women only orgasm while in certain positions. So you could try taking control and going ontop to see if that helps. Certain positions really get the right spot so try a bunch of different ones to see if that works. I highly suggest doggy style, it’s one of the most pleasing positions and if you do it for long enough you might reach the big O.

He gave up masturbation? Ah, that’s not good. It’s very healthy to masturbate and relives a lot of built up stress so you should tell him not to give that up. It’s one of those completely natural things that everyone should be doing whether they are sexually active or not.

Answer #2

mandyloo, I didnt ask him to give it up he just told me one day. I told him that he really didnt have to and that I understood but he feels that he shouldnt

Answer #3

First off, 80 percent of woman can NOT have an orgasm from penetration alone. Either you or him need to pay attention to your clit in order for you to achieve an orgasm. You said you’ve never had one manualy. You really should masterbate to learn what you like and how to get yourself off. That way you can help your partner pleasure you.

Also, why has he given up masterbation for you? That’s absurd. Masterbation is something that everyone does, it does not mean that he doesn’t want you, it’s a normal thing and it’s a great way to releave stress/tension/etc. I honestly doubt he has given it up, he probley just doesn’t let you know about it. Why do you not want him to masterbate? You serioiusly need to think about that question.

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