do you think it is fair if your own mother disownes you?
Sharon Louise, I'm reading your words today and weeping at your kindness.
I was disowned almost thirty years ago, by the man who had married my mother and adopted my sister and me.
The man battered Mom and "played around" on her, prior to her death of cancer at age 50, in 1971.
When my first daughter was stillborn in 1982, he came to the hospital and we had an argument about the way Mom and my sister were treated. Haven't seen him since.
Here's the kicker: Sister is on his side, thinks I deserved to be disowned because "I've always been an angry person" and is constantly punishing me in various ways for inconveniencing her by being disowned.
My lovely daughters are 25 and 21 now, their "grandfather" has never met them and lives only an hour away.
I'd gotten over this --- and now am struggling over Sister, who was my full-blood sister, and someone I thought would always be "my family." Not. I can't tell if she wants his dough, his attention or just to get something I can't have, but it sure does hurt like heck. I am fifty-seven years old and figure Mom would be pretty unhappy about this, swear I've tried everything short of becoming the sad little kid I used to be, and am seriously trying to not "let it get (me) down and stay strong" as Sharon told me...
Thank you for being there for me on this very sad day.
My mom had me at 17 and hates my dad. Very recently I developed a relationship with my father, and I'm living with him. I was sexually, physically, and emotionally abused, and did not blame my mother once. I did everything she wanted and I always felt like there was more I could do to make her happy, pushing aside my depression and unhappiness... I hate that my mom is avoiding my calls and emails because of my new realtionship. The past is the past. But I love my mom, and I keep trying to reach out and let her know I love her regardless, but it doesn't do anything. It is the hardest, most painful situation I've ever been in, even compared to testifying in court about being molested... I don't know what to do nowadays but work and go through college. It hurts my dad because he sees I'm hurting and he can't do anything to change my mom... I feel as lost as you hun.
Way to go ty...!!??
I think if a couple wanted kids, they have a huge heart for love and they could never be able to "kick a young one out" unless they are of age. They must be having problems that you don't know about. Children are precious and bringing them up with the proper discipline shows they love you even more. When kids have no boundaries, they act worse than if they did. They WANT structure, and will act out accordingly if they are allowed to come and go as they please, ie: no chores, no help cleaning, doing dishes, dusting, confiding with each other in homework, and the list goes on.
Just live for yourself and see how far it gets you!
Be the best kid you can be!
I don't think its right or fair that any mother would disown their child.
If you did something wrong, then your mother obviously wanted to disown you for a reason which in my opinion isn't right! If she really loved you unconditionally, she wouldn't disown you. She should've never had children in the first place.
Its ashame people like your mother would do that. If my mother disowned me for what I did to my father, I'd feel guilty and I would also feel bad about all the problems that my family and I had. It all depends what you did but it isn't your fault what happened.
I wish you the best of luck.
Today I just got an email bacik from my mum. she's stating in her own words, that she is disowning me which infact she already did 5 years ago. Left mr and my sister with family memebers married a man from the Carribean, and had 2 kids for him. she never even said goodbye to us, knowing we were going back home to Engald after her wedding there. I have struggled to cope but it has made me a stronger person, so keep your head up high girl and you will reach the skies. One day she'll be begging for fogiveness.
I think parents should love you no matter what...we all make mistakes and life isnt perfect..but when you give life your doing exactly that...a life to live so you cant dictate to your kids everything they do especially when there grown up and left home...the emotional pain some 1 can go through knowing there not loved for who they are...to all you who have been disowned dont let it get you down and stay strong.
No... I dont think it's fair. I also doubt it is your fault... I know that no matter what my kid did, I would never disown them. (And yes this includes murder) That's what unconditional love is about. Some people just dont have the capacity for that. That isnt your fault or your issue, it's hers... It doesnt make her a bad person. It just makes her a person that should never have had kids...
my mother has always been a thorn in my side. Nothing I ever did was good enough yet my brother was the best. She even answered the door on my wedding day for my photogher and said I dont know waht your talking about! Now I find out that she wants to disown me and cut me from her will--Go figure
no I thank that it is the worst thing a mother could ever do to there child because I am in that pisition aslo with my mom disowning me because of her new boyfriend...
omg no I dont think there are many things a kid could do that would make you want to, think a bout or even actually disown them
Like xxx said, it is pretty sad. but she does have the right to if you disobey one of her rules. good luck..
I agree ^^^ with bitburger63. it is sad, but if you're really that bad... I mean, what else can you do?
depends on what you did...