Do I pursue this relationship?

I like this guy a lot!!! I have had this crush on this boy for a long time! We went out…broke up…dated..off and on for over a year! We both had sex. Lost it to each other! I fell in love with this boy! Its hard to beleive after everything that has happened with us! He told me he used me, we fought for 4 months staright, but we worked stuff out…it was confusing!! So he is a year older then me. He left and went to college in nebraska, and im stuck in our home town with another year of high school. Before he left I told him we need to see each other. He came by we talked hung out…I said bye…he left, I cried for hours! It was so hard for me! I didnt know what to do. I talked to my girlfriends but it doesnt help my situation. So I was like he is gone, we wont talk, well both move on. so and so. anyway…he started to text me, and talking to me. I was suprised at first but I didnt know how to react. so I been talking to him. I didnt tell him this before he left, I wanted to tell him I loved him! So I did! The day after he left when he texted me I told him I loved him. He didnt know what to say. I for sure thought I pushed him away by telling him this. The thing is…I told him, and after he was glad I told him, and now he talks to me like every day!!! Its weird…the other day he had the guts to say do you miss me? I said of course you nerd…he said he misses me too! UGH why did he have to say that! Then again im not sure… I don’t know what he is thinking!?!? or doing?!?! Im so confused! But I miss him!! I don’t know what to do?!?! someone help?!?!

Answer #1

no offense, but it sounds like he has got you wrapped around his little finger. when he says jump, you say how high? you seem a little too attatched to him. I have a feeling you are not focusing on your studies as you say, “im stuck in our home town with another year of high school” It sounds like the only dream on your mind is this boy. Do you have any future plan besides hoping that this boy doesnt find someone he likes more than you at a big college? It definitely can happen. The thing that bothers me the most is that when you told him that you love him, he didnt say that he loved you back. thats called unrequited love. I think he is using you and likes the idea that there is a girl out there who loves him unconditionally. it makes him feel better about himself. that may be the reason he keeps texting you. Also, you are his mashed potatoes. you are comforting and a reminder of home. it sounds sucky, but I think you may have to move on. you really should ask yourself: Can I do better? and Can I find someone better who loves me just as much as I love them?

let me know if you need anymore help or if I was not specific enough! -emma

Answer #2

I wanted to tell him I loved him! So I did! The day after he left when he texted me I told him! He didnt know what to say.>>Um…he could have said it back, IF he felt the same way.

I have had this crush on this boy for a long time! We went out…broke up…dated..off and on for over a year! We both had sex>>Have you still been having sex???

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