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I M 30 YEARS OLD MAN MARRIED SINCE LAST 8 YEARS HAVE 2 CHILDRENS 5 YEARS OLD SON AND 1 MONTH OLD DAUGHTER. FROM THE START OUR MARRIAGE LIFE SPENT SEVERAL PROBLEMS DUE TO MIS-UNDERSTANDING BETWEEN MY PARENTS AND MY IN LAWS. ME AND MY WIFE LOVE EACH OTHER BUT UNFORTUNATELY SOME TIMES I DID PHYSICALLY ABUSED MY WIFE WHEN I WAS IN ANGER BUT AFTER THAT I APPOLOGIZED AND THINGS GET NORMEL BUT ONE WEEK AGO SAME SITUATION HAS OCCURED I SLAPT MY WIFE AND SHE RAN AWAY HER PARENTS HOUSE NOW I M CONTACTING HER BUT SHE AND HER PARENTS DONT WANT TO RECONCILING ANY MORE OUR BOTHS KID ARE WITH ME NOW AND I FEEL DEEPLY SORRY FOR ALL I DID AND ASSURING THEM THAT IT WOULD NOT BE HAPPEN IN FUTURE AND ASKING THEM TO GIVE ME A LAST CHANCE TO RECOVER MY MISTAKES BUT NOBODY LISTENING MY VOICE I REALLY WANT TO SAY THAT THIS TIME I REALLY FEEL SORRY FOR WHY I ALWAYS BLAMED MY WIFE AS SHE IS INNOCENT IN ALL CASES. NOW THE ARE DEMANDING ME TO GIVE DIVORCE HER BUT I M NOT AGREE WITH DIVORCE because IT IS THE UGLY FACE AND THE WORST THING AND JUST WANT MY WIFE COME BACK. IN THIS REGARD WHAT SHOULD I DO HOW WAY I GET MY WIFE BACK IN MY LIFE FOR MY AND MY CHILDRENS FUTURE. HER FAMILY PRESSURISING HER TO DONT GO AGAIN TO ME I KNOW SHE LOVES ME BUT NOW SHE IS ANGRY AND I AM ALSO SURE ONE DAY SHE WILL COMES TO ME BUT I M SUFFERING IN A VERY TENSION NOW A DAYS. PLEASE ADVICE
Once you have broken somebody's trust like you have, it is a real hard job to get it back. The fact that you have abused your wife repeatedly despite the fact that you have promised never to do it again is a sign that you need to do some serious inner soul searching before continuing this relationship. I know you love your kids and wife very much but the fact that you have repeatedly hurt them has pushed them away in the long run. It is amazing that your wife stuck around that long and I think you have to now be really mature and strong and accept that what you have done has shattered the love and trust that you once shared together. You really need to go see a therapist, a social worker or a psychologist in order to understand why you feel the need to react by violence in a loving relationship. There is no easy way out of this one and if you really want to have any chance of getting your family back you first have to work on your own issues. Start by the highest respect for your wife who has taken the right decision by protecting herself and her kids from an abusive relationship. From now on think of what is best for them and try to understand why they have taken this drastic step. You really have to swallow your pride here and talk about it with someone you can trust like a bestfriend or family. Find someone that is ready to listen to you and help you be the better person you want to become. It is going to take a lot of time and hard work but if you are really serious about changing then you have to take the first steps. You first have to do it for yourself and your kids because you don't really want to be an abusive person or an abusive father. If you really work out your emotional issues maybe in the future you can think about starting a new relationship with your wife. Untill then you have realize that what you have done is unacceptable and untill you work on yourself to be a better person, you risk of losing more then just your wife. The inlaws are just trying to protect their daughter and grand children. The real problem stems from your mismanaged anger that seriously needs to be treated.
I am going through the most pain in my life My wife admitted to cheating on I told her I would get over it She started writing guys I dont know online I got so paranoid and filled with anger that when we got into and she told me she wanted to leave me I attacked her. She got her family involved I went to jail for agg batterie for grabing her neck. I cry every night for what I did My heart feels so empty its been 2 weeks since and my PFA hearing is thursday And I want to tell her so much how I feel but I dont think shell listen. I went so crazy with jealousy It ate me and turned me into a monster. We have to kids her friend tells me she never wants to be with me ever again but she tells my kids every night that I love them. I dont know if she will ever want me back I have enrolled into anger managment and councling. I hope through all this work that she will see that I want to change for my family. Really I do I cant imagine my life with anyone else. its hurts so bad. I have lost 20 lbs over it and can not sleep My first counsiling is wed. Im just sittin waiting for the letter to come in the mail (file for divorce) I dont know how shell ever want me back but I pray to god every night. hopefully once I get to start seeing my kids and she sees that im making improvments with anger managment that she will start to heal I know time will heal its self but I dont want to loose her to someone that comes in her life that makes her feel better and loved. I have truly messed everything in life that meant the most to me. I have no one to blame but myself
First, I think its important for you to understand that a man should never hit a woman. Physiologically, men are stronger. If you hit your wife, not only did you hurt her in a physical way, but now you have affected her emotions. She is probably intimidated by you, and your relationship now lacks comfort and trust. What woman would want to be with a man that hurts her? If you've hit her in the past, and then apologized, only to hit her again, then why should she believe you when you say you won't do it this time? What makes this situation any different from the first? You need to take a serious look at yourself before you even consider getting your wife back. Abuse isn't okay, and if you really loved your wife, then you wouldn't do anything to hurt her, no matter what the circumstances were. Look at your children.. you're hurting them by chasing your wife away. No child wants to live in a broken home. My advice to you is to take a serious look at who you are, and why you act out in a violent manner towards your wife. When you discover this, work on those faults. Your wife isn't going to come back to you unless she sees some improvement in your personality; and its not fair for you to expect her to return unless you right your wrongs. If she's afraid of you hitting her, then its only natural that she would want to leave because you pose a danger to her well being. A marriage should be ruled by love, not physical control and mental intimidation. Fix yourself, and then think about getting your wife back.
I have been separated from my wife for 45 days because I slapped her. I had verbally abused her for years up to that point. I have used the time to read every book I can get my hands on about verbal abuse and managing my emotions. I study like i'm studying for a final exam because I think it is--it is probably my last chance to save my marriage and reunite my family. I read the books, outlined them, and study the outlines DAILY. I no longer blame her like I did before. That was a lie. I had a need to control her because of my hurt from childhood. I don't like uncomfortable feelings so I turned them into anger. I have let go of her so she can heal. I don't call her or try to see her. We talk about the kids and I have visitation with the kids. The best thing you can do is follow what I have done. I now realize how distorted my thinking was. I understand it, now I have to change it. Keep in mind, if you stop abusing her today that does nothing to change the hurt and pain she is feeling NOW. She has to feel loved and trusted. You have to show love even when she isn't loving you. You do that by giving her SPACE and TIME to heal. Not by giving gifts or begging her to return. That is the best path. Go to church, talk to friends, pray, keep a journal of how you are feeling each day and keep track of negative and positive thoughts. Go read "Stop Hurting the Woman You Love" and "Emotional Intelligence" and "The Verbally Abusive Relationship." Good luck
lol, why is the question in caps? BIGGER LETTERS DON'T CHANGE YOUR WORDS!! XD Sorry sugar rush. And did you ever learn grammar? Reread all of your work before handing it in!! ^^ Okie, I'm a 13 year-old girl.. But I love romance.
< but he disagreed with everything, leading to argument. So try to not argue w/ your wife.. If that helps.. Three, I have anger management issues, and I love Japan. Try listening to Japanese pop. You can't understand the words, and you concentrate more on the music than the lyrics, taking your mind off of other things. And when you're not worrying ((or whatever)) about other things, you're less likely to get frustrated and lose your temper. Also, meditating helps. I meditate for at least 15 minutes a day. And no, without the "Hmmm" sounds. Four, love never goes away. You have time!! The divorce is ridiculous!! Straighten yourself up, then try to get her back!! ^^
Hope this helps.. Btw, the Japanese pop thing, you don't have to use that kind of music, just I have over 200 Japanese songs on my ipod. I'll give anyone the best bands and best songs. ^^
Hate you always, Ama ((I don't really hate you ^^))
And looking at pictures of Ryuzaki is good too, Here's one!! ^^
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first of all, I know that you are an Arab and I know exactly what the problem is. Most of Arab men expect they have all the right to beat their wives and she just have to be patience. And you only know to talk rather than do, and I beleive that she had given you many chances, and something happened too bad that she is willing to let her children off to you.
I really agree with all the advices above especially about taking anger control program, and if your wife want a divorce give her to show that you really love her and willing to please her. You can always take her as your wife again when she has forgiven you but this time show that you are worth it. I know because I left my abusive Arab husband, he forced me to come back to him, even threaten to kill me if i dont go back to him at the same time say that he really love me.
believe me you had breach the limit
well I have been separated from my wife for 2months and a half I want my wife back home. I have been married for 14yrs and a half and she went from I want to see if your going to change of my jealousy to telling me in one month I dont love you only for the kids to im never going back home I have my 13yr old daughter and 10 yr old son and she has my 12yr old daughter and I think there is someone else her life I have tried everything from buying her a ring sending her flowers to work painting the house buying her a ticket to go to nashville to pick up mom I have done it all and I still cant touch her heart she says she hates me.help me
Coming form a woman's perspective, if I was beaten or hit or slapped by my husband numerous times, I wouldn't want to go back with him, since it could very well happen again. In fact the first time it happened, I would leave his as*! No man should ever hit a woman, or better yet his wife!!! It sounds like you have anger management issues. Maybe you should try working on those before you try to get your wife back and save her from another slap in the face, because trustt me, I dont think she will come backl until you prove to her you will NEVER abuse her again!
well I have been with my wife for 8 years she left with my 2 kids she put a oder of protection and I s taking me 2 court for child cotudy I am 25 years old she is 22 I have abused her for years but I have really change and I want her to see that but the problem is that I havent spoken to her in month I am taking anger manegment classes and going to church seeking god I really love her but she told one of her family members that she gave me to many chances what to do I really have change I reconize I was wrong and I want to work on this what to do
HELLO BROTHER I HEAR YOU , IM IN THE SAME SITUATION. MY WIFE LEFT ME IN MAY 9TH. BECAUSE OF MY PHYSICAL ABUSE. THE ONLY ADVICE TO YOU IS GET CLOSER TO GOD, GOD IS THE ANSWER ALSO SEEK COUNCELING FOR YOUR ANGER AND JUST LET HER COOL OFF, SHES JUST BLOWING STEEM RIGHT NOW. I UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN AND ANGUISH. PLAY WITH YOUR KIDS, GO OUT WITH THEM BECAUSE THEY TO ARE SUFFERING. YOUR WIFE MAY SEE THAT YOU INDEED WANT TO CHANGE AND LATER SHE MIGHT COME BACK. ILL KEEP YOU IN MY PRAYERS. LOOK TO GOD, JUST LOOK TO GOD
Well first of all Hitting a woman is the lowest form of male ego.....secondley actions speak louder than words...go to therapy/anger managment show your wife that you are willing to change and get your anger under control as you've hit her before and appologized before aswell. so why should she believe you now !! ??
Show her how much you love don't tell her...
Good luck
tell her that you wont do it again ever and you mean it, tell her that if you ever do it again you would sign the divorce paper instatnly and that you would also get some help... goodlcuk!
I hope you burn in hell...
