I dont want to be here. . . .

sorta. . .but im not a slut. I dont dress like on either. my family is saying this about me because I wear make up and have playboy bunnies on my nails.

I would move in with your friend if you can. If you want freedom, I would also just convince your parents you don’t want to be at home anymore. If you dress the way you do, that’s your choice. If you can live with your friend, maybe your grades will go up again. Just see what happens. It’s your choice if you dress a certain style. Your family sounds like they don’t want to support you in your decisions. That’s too bad. I wish you could just move out now! But, first, see if your friend can take you in. Good luck, and just convince your parents how you’re feeling. Don’t let people get to you if they call you a slut and such. That’s them judging.

sweetie I hear you… I was my parents golden child, then I started to be myself and they hated me for it I literally got kicked out for 3 days bc I gauged my ears out… but your family loves you they just don’t realize that they don’t have total control anymore, and that scares them have faith babes… show them, or remind them that you’re the daughter they always loved I hope things work out better for you than me :] <3

get back,prove them wrong,do what I did,I dress decent infront of them but when their gong I put all my piercings back on..improve your grades,get a good job dont be a slut,if you prove your parents wrong,their recpect for you will be higher,and most parents think that if your results are good,they will let you do what you want..hope it helps

talk to them, sit them down, and get things straight dont let them leave the table untill youve explained everything and have at least expressed your opinion a lot of girls nowdays have playboy related things …Im wearing a bra from the playboy brand right now, that doesnt make me a slut wearing anything with a logo doesnt change who you are its just a logo…it might represent something a little promiscuouse but that doesnt make you promiscuose, only the way you act will so telll them that what you wear doesnt affect or change who you are on the inside dont let this trouble you too much it seems like a pretty silly thing for them and you to be fighting over and its not worth it if you dont do drugs, tell them that and listen to why they think you do them do get there opinion on why they actually think youve changed as a person just because youve changed yor style, or nails, ect tell them that they dont trust you anymore, and because of that your grades at school are slipping basically, just have a talk with them and no one leave the talk untill you have all talked about it and have everyone elses opinion

Hi Hun. Most times when parents see there children changing it scares them. What you are doing as far wearing different clothing or makeup does not change the person you are inside. I do believe you have morals and respect for your self. I suggest you ask your parents if they would sit with you and discuss there fears and also your own concerns in how they are perceiving you. Let them know you are still the beautiful daughter they have always loved and admired. Let them know that they can trust you and you have no desire to take drugs etc. Tell them it hurts you a great deal to know they don’t trust you. That it is affecting your grades, sleep, concentration, respect for them and most of all tell them you are not wanting to come home anymore because of the hurt you are feeling. Ask them what there wanting of you and maybe there’s a way to compromise with them. Remember, your there baby and all they want to do is protect you. There has to be give and take from you and your parents. I wish you all the best. Keep smiling

maddy306, your a very lovely girl, I’m sure you scare the beejesus out of your father, you would me. Sit them down and talk to them. Your dropping grades is certainly a sign of drug abuse. And does nothing but fan the fire between your current relationship. You’ve got to talk with them about what’s going on in your life. Trust me as a parent, that’s all they want is to know - what’s happening in your life. Letting this continue is the worst thing you can do.

The more you share with them the better your relationship will become. There may be things you only want to share with your mother, and that’s just find. Men usually don’t want to hear the ‘girl’ things from their daughter. But include him in other aspects of your life in discussions. Spend time and TALK with them, not just watch tv.

But it all starts with the one serious talk at first. Mom, Dad, I need to talk with you…

And no yelling - even it starts to become a heated conversation. Unless you have given them some reason for not trusting you, they should listen to your heartfelt talk with them.

I hope this helps, and I hope you do it soon.

Telling you of how I dealt with my family when I was 15 and I gained higher than normal respec: back on 2006 I got involved with an unussual group…not druggies but time-wasters…we’d go out and spen 7 hours lying on the grass speeking fo ronly 2 hourss or so… then in 2007 my grades started dropping gradually and this obvviously made my mum madd and she kicked me out of my house… I stayed away for 3 days…spent it with a friend in london…then I came back to birmingham and found out my mum had ent police to search for me and bring me back home safely…( one sign she loved me)…then another 4 months on we fell out again and my grades did not improve…so we had a fat arguement and I moved out…the next thing she heard about me was that my grades had drasticlly improven over 3 months and she found out via a certificate that was sent home…my mum doesnt know where I was…my teachers didnt know what was going on and I was fixing it on my part by giving a lesson to my mum…and fixing myself up aswell…so do what you think is best for you but if you do move out…try changing your grades…your style and dressing are part of you so you dont have to change them to gain your parents respect back…

Alll luck to you …xxx