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how far is "ok" to go?

my boyfriend and I are 13, and I def. know sex is wayy out but how far is ok to go at our age? thanks.

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Answer #1

You only get one “first time” so ideally it should be special, with someone you feel like you love, and not just doing it to “get rid” of virginity, like the culture tells us to do.

Each time you go beyond your comfort range, you will feel a tinge of excitement. Yet, if you go to kissing, it is very difficult to give up kissing, later. If you do everything with this boyfriend, then if you fall out of love, later, what new experience can you have with the next guy you feel you love?

Guys are only thinking, short term, like the length of time it would take to eat a package of cookies, while sipping a half gallon of milk.

That was why in Torah instructions, virgin daughters were sheltered by their household. Guys were instructed that if they had sex with a virgin, that they must marry her, and cannot divorce her all the days of his life.

That forced the guy to think about the long-term, and the community force him to commit to the long term, if he was unable or unwilling to use self-control.

(Our culture artificially extends childhood until about age 17, so we miss out on 5-years of learning to become responsible adults. Suddenly, we have a birthday and are supposed to know it all, becoming legally responsible at 18.)

Answer #2

well im 13 to and my boyfriend and I have the same problem if you BOTH think you are ready then you should. but if your not dont be pressured into doing something you may or may not be comfortable with

Answer #3

There is no morally right age. There is a legally right age, every place has an age of consent (an age when you are aloud to say yes to sex) but as far as how far you are aloud to go, in the end, no one says but YOU if it feels right, go for it. if it doesn’t , STOP. I personally think sex is a little off for your, because emotionally and even physically (you might not be completely developed), you probably aren’t ready. No one knows better than you, talk to your partner and see how far the TWO of you are comfortable to go.

Answer #4

I doesnt matter how far you go..just as long as you feel comfortable and ready for whatever happens

Answer #5

as far as you feel comftable I know 11 year olds who had it because they loved each other

Answer #6

yeahh but id go on a condom(well he can lol) or use a femidon (girl condom) or the pill :]

Answer #7

how far you wanna go is up to you! but when you ask your partner about something its a good idea to tell him its allright if he doesnt want to do whatever you ask him about as it makes it a lot easier to say no, so non of you does something you dont really want!

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