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How do I not care what my Mom says

Ok I am 53, my mom 83. But I still get like a child if she criticises something that I buy, or do. How do I not care. I say to myself “How dare she”. I am not working now, I still live home. But I am not a mamas girl. Help

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Answer #1

Dear voterperson, Unless your mother needs 24 hour care then I suggests getting a job. Start socializing with friends and other family member, perhaps date and take up a hobby. If you have other things on your mind and have more happiness in your life you will…not care so much. Congrats on knowing you have to care less and knowing that you must do something to change your situation. Know and doing are two different things however and unless your willing to change you are going to end up alone one day wishing you had created a better life for yourself. Sue…good luck

Answer #2

take classes, get a job (no matter how big or small), write poetry (doesn’t matter if it is good), join a club, anything to get out of the house and develop new interests. your mom is 83. there is NOTHING you can do to change her, so change yourself. she won’t be around forever and you will need other interests to fall back on. and if she says something that rubs you the wrong way, ignore it completely and change the subject. her- you don’t look good in that. you - I watched a funny show last night. her - did you hear me? you - yes, but I would rather talk about something else. her - why not. don’t you care what I think. you - I know what you think and I would rather talk about something else.

and then do it. proceed to talk about something different. keep doing that. she won’t change but you will feel more in control of the conversation. and begin to feel better about yourself.

NEVER, EVER say “why don’t I look good in it” “or why do you say those things to me” etc, etc. that just plays into her control and makes you feel helpless.

good luck. it is a little late to be making this break but better late than never.

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