having a disability

My boyfriend and I both have physically challenges. My boyfriend’s father is totally against this and we are together 2 years. I am 38 and he is 31. We both live in seperate apts and have professional jobs.

His Dad feels the relationship will never work. We cannot do alot because of our inabilities. He sees this as a doomed relationship and will never be supportive. His father is concerned about money between us and how much I make and if I am frivelous with money. I will say that I make more than my boyfriend which is fine and have supported myself for 20 years. I lost my parents very young.

My boyfriend shares this with me and I have heard enough for the last 2 years. When I am in there presence they never question my abilities nor thoughts on this. I feel that very uncomfortable sitting with his family and want to not associate much with. I would not want to put my boyfriend in the middle however, I would never stop him from being with his family on his own.

How do you handle a person who does not like you or ever will accept you in their life? My family is supportive of us both and never had a issue with us together.

I thought this would pass and things would lighten up however his Dad will never change. I realize he is set in his ways. I feel hurt and do not want be in his presence. I know parents have thoughts to say and concerns which is fine. I know his parents are over protective also.

Need help