ex boyfriend help

well I thought I was over my ex its been 4 months since he dumped me.. he had a girlfriend for 3 weeks but she dumped him like 3 days ago and I thought he hated me (which he sad he did) until he contacted me 2 nights ago and we talked for 3 hours that night & then the next day we talked for 2 hours. then I was talking to his neighboor tom who has been on my side & helping me this whole time with my ex because I clearly love him. so I sent tom a text saying “am I in a good posistion to finally start winning him back.. very slowly that is.. might take months but im ok with that.” & he responded back to me “yes that sounds exactly right to m, and to tell you something, mikes parents told him to get back with you last week and he told me that.” soo apparently his parents really liked me & they want to see us together again & also our friends.. well not my friends or his friends im talking about people who are friends with both of us are just sick of us not being together because apparently we were perfect.. like voted best couple. and all of them are trying to get us back together.. I just dont know what I should do. tom is pretty much an expert in relationships because he takes classes in college about like relationship therapy and stuff like that. he told me the next time I talk to mike I should remind him of a good memory we had together to make him see what he is missing. really I feel so lonely and sad without mike. I love him. has anyone wn back an ex before? how did you do it? I need some help.. I love him.

Answer #1

well I mean I just have a lot of hope because my sister dated this one guy in high school then they broke up and hated eachothers guts for 2 years then they got back together & got married and have a family & they couldnt be more happier. I’ve seen it happen its possible..

Answer #2

I know it doesnt seem like the right thing to do but.. im willing to risk it all. and if I crash and burn.. I’ll learn.

Answer #3

That statement is so false - you’ll learn with time. Not everyone deserves a second chance. When you love someone - you dont leave them for another person. It has happened once, and if she goes back to him, it’s telling him that she is willing to take him back no matter what he does. It’s only going to lead to more problems and more heartache.

Answer #4

yeah, everyone deserves a second chance. & you dont know what he could of being feeling.. he might of felt for her aswell as this other girl. you do sound perfect. good luck [y] your`ll have to e-mail how it is soon!

Answer #5

yeah I knoww.. but I feel like it would be me giving him another chance & if he messes up then its over. maybe he feels he made a mistake? I don’t know I would probably only take him back if he admits that he was stupid for breaking up with me in the first place. its just so hard.. I want to get back together so I can really see if he is the one or not. ughh lol but it means a lot to have his parents want us back together considering I was the only reason he even passed high school because I pushed him and made him do his work & im also the reason he walked at graduation because he didnt want to.. I just dont know.

Answer #6

This is not the right thing to do. Open your eyes to what is really going on.

He dumped you for another girl, she broke up with him, so now he’s coming crawling back to you. He is only doing it because she broke up with him, do you think he would honestly be coming back if they were still dating - no. Don’t let youseld be played by some fool, realize what’s really going on and move on with your life and ignore him. If he loved you - he would NOT have left you for another girl in the first place.

Answer #7

I must agree with mandyloo.

I dated a girl for a while and we were happy all of my friends were her friends and blah blah blah.

She wanted me to move in and I did not. She wanted to get a dog and I did not, she wanted me to see her everyday and I did not (at first I did). I lost interest and my friends told me I was crazy for letting her go. She is beautiful and gave me everything. She is the type of girl that would devote her life to me and I liked it.

I left her because I met a girl in NY and I fell for her. We would talk on the phone for hours and we would im and text each other all day. The relationship did not last because of the distance and whatnot.

I went looking for my ex and won her back. It took me some time because she said I broke her heart and I told her that I loved her and that I was stupid and wanted to be with her. We get back together and it’s all great for a bout a month. The more time I spent with her the more remembered why I left her.

I met a girl about a month later and I started seeing her. We went out of town for a week. We went to different cities within the state and had a blast! I called my ex and broke it off the first day I met this new chick. I am an asshole for breaking her heart and using her as my rebound twice! I now I’m horrible! The new chick and I have been together for 2yrs and counting.

My ex is in a relationship and hope that she is happy. I regret everything I made her go thru and for being selfish.

This is the point of view from the other side.

Answer #8

I must agree with mandyloo.

I dated a girl for a while and we were happy all of my friends were her friends and blah blah blah.

She wanted me to move in and I did not. She wanted to get a dog and I did not, she wanted me to see her everyday and I did not (at first I did). I lost interest and my friends told me I was crazy for letting her go. She is beautiful and gave me everything. She is the type of girl that would devote her life to me and I liked it.

I left her because I met a girl in NY and I fell for her. We would talk on the phone for hours and we would im and text each other all day. The relationship did not last because of the distance and whatnot.

I went looking for my ex and won her back. It took me some time because she said I broke her heart and I told her that I loved her and that I was stupid and wanted to be with her. We get back together and it’s all great for a bout a month. The more time I spent with her the more remembered why I left her.

I met a girl about a month later and I started seeing her. We went out of town for a week. We went to different cities within the state and had a blast! I called my ex and broke it off the first day I met this new chick. I am an asshole for breaking her heart and using her as my rebound twice! I now I’m horrible! The new chick and I have been together for 2yrs and counting.

My ex is in a relationship and hope that she is happy. I regret everything I made her go thru and for being selfish.

This is the point of view from the other side.

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