Divorce?

dummy you had a child with this man you shude have thout abut that before my parents are devoced and its tarable you shude only devorce him now if hes on drugs(the illegil kind) if hes unfatefull or if he harms you or the child plus mabey thow its unlikely he may not be abel to find a job if you do devoice make him pay child suport my father ows me and my brodther over a hundred grand good luck ps he seems stupid you mite want to try perswacev force

as the mother YOU have legal rights to your child, not him. find another babysitter and kick him out. you do not need him. you say leave and if he does not you call the cops. if he tries to come back call the cops on him again. after 3 times it is considered harrassment and you can file for a temporary restraining order. and remember change all the locks.

TALK first: I advise that for one afternoon, you leave the kids with a family member and the two of you should concentrate on your relationship. You can both do this by voicing your opinion on your current situation (you being the only one working, him at home, the involvement of his family members w/, other issues, etc) you should give your cents and he should give his cents so that you both may reach a common ground. Arguments may arise, but remember that whatever he says and whatever you say are only your opinions…each of your own truths. After that, you reach the common ground by asking yourselves, how can we make things easier for one another? How can we make things fair for our children?… etc. If he really has been having trouble finding a job, maybe you can help him find one… whether he wants to work or not since you are expecting and you would need his income.

If you really want him gone: The issue concerning your fear he will take the kids during the divorce process should not be in your mind after you both have had your chance to talk about the issues at hand. If you still have the fear, then this remains an unresolved matter…are you interested in marriage counseling??

After reaching a common ground, you will be able to decide whether a divorce at this time is right for the both of you and your children.

if he has been psychologically or physically negative in any way to you or your child and you have unresolved differences, then you can get a temporary restraining order. If not, then a restraining order is not the solution [if you are considering a restraining order].

This is your child’s father so reach a common ground with him. Whatever you decide, you must keep a solid foot on your ground for you and your children.