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Condoms turn him off

So I have a boyfriend who I love very much!, we’ve had sex, which was about a month ago (we both lost our virginity then). And since then we’ve tried, and we’re both ready, then realise we need a condom, luckily there just by the side of the bed but by the time we get it on he’s no longer erect. I try making the condom not seem such a big deal, and do it whilst wanking him off etc, but nothing works. I even try wanking him off when its on which doesnt work either. Its got so bad that even the mention of condoms just turns him off. it really sucks, my mums taking me to the doctors to go on the pill soon, so I was wondering if I still need to use a condom when im on the pill? because its really not doing any good for either of us. Its also lowering his confidence. Advice please?, thanks x

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Answer #1

there are other options too, like different condoms…theres super thin ones that you cant even feel…and fun lubricants, that tingle or heat up…try something:P

Answer #2

You both should get checked for STD’s before you decide to not use a condom. I know you said you are both virgins, but just to be sure. You can get an STD from Oral sex also, and you don’t know his whole past.

You don’t have to use a condom while on birth control, if you use the pill properly and are in a long term relationship and trust your partner.

Know that birth control is only like 97 percent effective when used the right way. Make sure you follow the directions and read the book that comes with it.

Answer #3

You still need to get checked out, both of you. You have done things before (oral), and then you have done things with him.

STD’s can lay dormant in your body for up to years at a time without having any symptoms. If your going to have oral sex with someone or not use a condom, you should get checked for STD’s.

You are already going to the obgyn to get on the pill, they will do a pap smear when you are there. Just ask to be checked when you go. Your boyfriend should go to a doctor or a clinic. Dont’ be embarresed, they are used to it, and it’s better safe than sorry.

Answer #4

I know he’s not got an STD because he’s not done anything with a girl before. I have with boys, but if I did do oral with boys and got an STD in my mouth wouldnt I have noticed by now as the last boy was about 5-6 months ago?

and thanks, my sisters on it so she’ll makesure im on it propperly, and going to speek to the doctor about it aswell,

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