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Why would my sister in law be so horrible to me?

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The most recent thing my sister in law did to me has hurt me beyond repair; she literally went to such extreme efforts to hurt and exclude me that I had no idea how horrible she really is until now and I don't know how to handle it. She has always had an issue with me although not even mutual friends or family members know why. She would get jealous and hateful towards me and my husband’s entire family when someone else was in the spotlight. We assumed it was just jealousy so we went above and beyond to make her a part of whatever was going on. Even on my birthday everyone went out hours late because she had a head ache and didn't want to be alone. It was slightly aggravating but I didn’t really care as long as everyone still had fun. Even at eight months pregnant now she refuses to think of anyone else's well being. She brings her 180 pound Great Dane and her her 110 pound mixed breeds dog with her to my mother and father in laws house for family events. They’re huge dogs and not well behaved. Previously in the pregnancy they knocked me over and almost trampled me. I would have been really injured had my husband not pulled them off me. I no longer can visit her home due to this but she has not even enough respect to not bring these dogs to other peoples homes when I'll be there. She says “they’ll be fine she’ll get over it”. But now much worse than anything past I feel she’s hit an ultimate low. After announcing our marriage her behavior became unfathomable. To make the family at piece again we created her a part in our wedding. It was small wedding out of town with only immediate family so no bridal party or groomsman however we made her the presenter of the rings and our pastor mistakenly even referred to her as the maid of honor! As if! She was ecstatic and it worked with making piece within the family again. We had a large reception once returning home and had the DJ introduce her and her now fiancé as well as seat them at the head table with my husband and myself. Now just a few short months later she is engaged and having a HUGE church wedding with a huge bridal party. Her cousin, friends from high school, EVERYONE is in it. Everyone but me. My husband is in it and is walking his cousin or one of her friends down the aisle instead of his wife, the mother of her nephew, and her sister in law. I’m not sitting at the head table nor am I being introduced by the DJ. I will literally be at a table by myself other than my infant son. She is nearly 26 too so it’s not as if she’s a teenager unaware of what this could do long term to our relationship. How do I deal with someone like this? What do I do and how do I act around the family when she’s there? My husband can only do or say so much without his family turning on him so any advice would help. Thank you.