How do i put up with my sister-in-law?

ok I seriously dislike my sister in-law it's impossable to like her for more then a week!! she's alway's acting all fake and aggreable when she really hate's us (me and my sister) im alway's trying to be nice to her and forgive her but it seem's like...

every time I turn around I hear that she's said something about me or my sister, she's a grown kid!! and if my brother did'nt have a child by her(2 year's old) we'd have nothing to do with her!! she's got into argument's with a teenager!! (being me) I was'nt just gonna let her talk sh**!! so I said somthing, but that's another story, we dont like eachother but we try to get along for the sake of peace!! she call'd my mother a joke to this world I hate her!! my brother appologize's for her way's and he once told me he didnt want to be with her,(and cus im living with my brother right now that's what we have to put up with EVERY DAY!!)HER SMART DUMB COMMENT'S!!,HER 5YEAR OLD ARGUMENT'S!!, I CANT TAKE IT I WANT OUT!! AS SOON AS MY MOM COME'S BACK,(from miami)IM OUT!! BUT PLEZZ TELL ME HOW CAN I PUT UP WITH HER CHILDISH WAY'S, UNTIL THEN??I GOT TO KNOW OR IM GONNA LOSE MY MIND!!

Ok i say your sister in law is really driving you nuts. The best advice i have is to sit down and have a talk with your brother, sister, and sister-in-law and all explain problems between one another, and if that doesn't go well then the only answer is to move out or just stay away.

tur, so tru, thanks.

I bet I have you all beat! I live 2 doors down from sister in law and she is a lazy 41 year old mother, who doesn't work, (unless 2.5 hours a week constitutes as a work week)she doesn't cook or clean, much less get out of bed before noon to care for her children. Her children stop by our house many days of the week for breakfast (while she is asleep of course) and I bet if the kids bathe 2 times a week that is saying a lot. She has a daughter that is completely out of control( that other relatives are contemplating hot lining her and trying to get custody)her daughter has stolen from us, other relatives, friends and neighbors, she is 11 and has regressed to behaviors of a toddler, like opening a box of band aids and sticking them around the house or taking a bag of sugar and slapping it all around the kitchen, the same with laundry soap, these are just mild examples of her off the hook behavior. This child compulsively lies and bullies all the younger children.The 6 year old has a horrible speech impairment and still wets the bed. Her and her husband collect welfare so speech is free.Yet they can afford their drugs and beer everyday. Most days of the week I have at least one of the children for up to 14 hours. I work, go to school and have a family of my own. If I do not have them my mother in law does. They will not take their children to the grocery store, but expect us to. Yesterday I called to advise that my niece was online calling me a liar and being very disrespectful and my sister in law proceeded to yell at me that she won't ever come over with her kids again (like she ever comes over anyway, she just sends the kids) that she was sick of hearing how bad her daughter is, she will take care of it. So I asked at her at what point was she going to take care of it? She hung up of course. It absolutely sickens me, that her lazy butt has children crying out for help and she won't doing anything as a parent to get them help. Heaven forbid she get out of bed and stay sober one day to care for her kids. But according to her I am the bad person. My conclusion to it is she won't do anything about her child's behavior because then it would be known that her and her husband are the problem.I hope for the kids sake the state steps in and does something for these kiddos.

Firstly , hats off to all and any that have a sister-in law that does indeed cause problems. Yes there are very calm and civil ways to work around this person but unfortunately, not always.

I can relate to what this can be like because I'm living it. There is always one person that can manage to just get under your skin and stay there. ( no matter how mature and civilized you are). My sister-in law is a whopper. This is a grown woman at 45 never married, no children who other than 4 years of sleep-away college has never left home to live elsewhere. My hubby is her brother( a few years older). Both of their parents are now dead and my hubby's sis isn't going anywhere to leave the :Free Ride anytime soon. Soo, this means along with years, years and years of just her over-all horrible,self rightous behavior and hatefulness, now we have to get the Freeloader who has lived off her elderly parents out. I know a mouthful but true.
So, it's hire a lawyer to get a grown woman out of your 50% house (that your sis has lived in free free free of all cost) . Neat trick. She's not going to budge until my hubby and I legally force her out. Yep, it's a nightmare.
I can relate to the sister-in law from HELL because not only is mine from Hell but she wants everyone to support her too. 3 cheers for anyone who has one of these because she's going to go down in the books as :The ultimate freeloading,self-serving.scheming, witch, who wants anyo0ne and everyone to pay her way in this world) B- - - - -. Good luck to all.

I am not answering you'r question,I just want to say that my sister in law is a bigger bitch than yours!I came into my husbands family 8 years ago,from day 1 she did not like me and actually told me that.Her husband sides with me!She has ruined this family and her husbands because she does not like her other sister inlaw either.She is horrible and mean.I am a really nice person and she missed out.She is a very jealous person over everything,that is the stem.I have gotten councelling and talked to a million friends over these issues.She will never change and can go to hell.I feel bad for you,I can relate.

umm that's my brother telling me these thing's but im sure he dos'nt want to hurt me when she say's these thing's he's the only one to take up for us,(i've even heard it one time) thank's sue i really like your advice.

Dear harmony,
It takes two to argue so you are also going to her level by arguing with her. You can't change others just yourself. Who is telling you the bad things she is saying about your family? This person is repeating things just to hurt you?? That person has a bigger problem then she does. We can't like everyone but when there is a small child involved we need to find a way to get along..the child is your niece and you need to be somewhat concerned about the role you play in her life.
Sue..good luck

MAN F**K DAT H*E AND ALL HER D*MN WAYS CUSS HER OUT (DATS WAT I WULD DO) MAN I BET SHEZ UGLY AS HE*L U CANT LET HER TALK MESS LK DAT U NEED 2 SHOW NT 2 MESS WIT U OR UR FAMILY! ALL I CAN SAY IS U N UR SIS JUS TEACH HER A LESSION!

yup i hate sister-in law's breyann, but our's are about the same at worse, did i forget to mention that she actually acused me and my sister of sleeping with our brother!! eww!! she is so jealous!! it's sickening!! she call'ed my mom a m**er f*cker. she suck's.

tur, so tru, thanks.

oh and to whadafuxup she da* suer anit the pretty's thing that rome's the earth, her look's alone can kill an army.

You need to take fourth grade English again and learn to spell and especially use contractions properly. How young or redneck are you?